ethylwulf: the thing is, no one really knows why some people want a rematch or why others refuse. You've given your personal rationale, but some members of the "mandatory rematch" crowd have different, possibly more sinister, desires. On the other side of the coin, you have no idea why someone declined, unless they tell you. Maybe they already hit new game. Maybe they have to leave. Maybe they need to use the bathroom or the phone rang or they got hungry or one of a thousand reasons that have nothing to do with you. My experience is that the rematch crowd tends to assume that anyone who doesn't rematch is a "runner" or a "coward" or is being rude. My advice is to not take things so personally.
Etiquette: the rematch
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Dec 28, 2016
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#43
"Intellectual curiosity"? Nobody is required, morally or otherwise, to be your lab rats.
Dec 28, 2016
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#44
@knighttour2 understood. And I am happy to report that I do not take it personally. Thank you for responding throughout this thread with sincerity and substance
@diakonia thank you, too, for responding with sincerity and substance.
And @beloma has just illustrated perfectly why I typically abstain from posting in fora of any type. A well-meaning and polite inquiry should not elicit such a rude and petulant response. You are not alone, however, a fact which amplifies the disappointment.
Farewell, all.
@diakonia thank you, too, for responding with sincerity and substance.
And @beloma has just illustrated perfectly why I typically abstain from posting in fora of any type. A well-meaning and polite inquiry should not elicit such a rude and petulant response. You are not alone, however, a fact which amplifies the disappointment.
Farewell, all.
Dec 28, 2016
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#45
The single idea of wondering about morally responsabilities in a chess game should tell you something about his IQ.
Dec 28, 2016
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#47
It looks like the original poster thinks everybody who disagrees with him is rude.
would Jesus cheat as a god or play as a man?
There are thousands of players on here, why do you have to rematch? I never rematch. If the random pairings pair us again then so be it...
Dec 29, 2016
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#50
No, @baloma, I'm certain that meaningful discourse requires dissent and disagreement. You'll note I thanked two other contributors who pointed out ample discord. I take issue with those whose responses devolve into ad hominem attacks, who cannot comport themselves in a respectful manner when addressing a legitimate inquiry by someone they do not know.
Dec 29, 2016
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#51
Hi all,
personally I most of the time does not rematch because I am happy to take a one-minute break after the game, or even review the game to make a a bit of analyzis - Why did I blunder at this step ? Why did I think 30 seconds to not see the obvjous move ? .. . on so on .
I think re -visiting the game and making a short break is quite reasonable and people should not feel angry because of no-rematch
Dec 29, 2016
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#52
I used to think the non-accepting rematch thing was super annoying as well, I think I even made a thread on it in the past, as others have pointed out there are literally hundreds. However, I just decided to get over it for two main reasons. 1. If the person had something that came up than they might not be a jerk for not rematching and you assumed they were without warrant. 2. If they are the type that won't rematch you just because they are actually jerks who don't respect sportsmanship than so what, I used to get red in the face at those types but than you just have think about how shallow and egotistic they are and at least for me that makes me not even want to play them again. Bottom line is that it's the internet, trolls are abundant. The best thing to do is shake them off and keep playing. When you find decent people add them so you can slowly build a list of people you want to play, after a while there will always be a decent person online when you are.
Dec 29, 2016
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#53
I strongly believe in reviewing every game with the computer afterwards. I never except rematches because of this. Maybe you shouldn't be jumping into a new game if you lose. Take a step back and figure out where you went wrong.
There is nothing jerky about not accepting rematches lol
Dec 29, 2016
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#55
Ninjakiwi17 wrote:
Unless you bet beef jerky on it
There is nothing jerky about not accepting rematches lol
Dec 29, 2016
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#56
Here's my situation:
I play people on chess.com. Let's say that my opponent this time offers a rematch. Then one of these happens:
1) I actually have to go irl and I just type gtg in chat (if it's even enabled) and leave.
2) Now:
a) if the opponent is way too low (x-300 or lower), then I just leave. This has been discussed here; what's the point in playing someone so low?
b) if the opponent is relatively low (x-300 to x-100), then maybe I would play 1-2 more games as you don't have a really good reason to leave on them (unless you have to go lol).
c) if the opponent is around my rating (within 100), then it's hard. This is when I feel rematches are obligatory unless you're done with chess for the day. You don't have much to lose from it.
d) if the opponent is fairly higher then accept the rematch; why not?
Dec 29, 2016
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#57
for me is very simple, i spend my time with the people that i want.
sometime i play against a type of player that have a gamestyle that i dont like, and i can choose to not accept a rematch finding another opponent.
Don't care if i win or not, sometime i not want to play another time with an opponent.
the time is mine, and with my time i do what i want.
i must NOT to be forced to play another time with an opponent for many reasons.
if i want, i accept a rematch, if for many reasons i dont want..i not accept, very simple.
knighttour2 wrote:
I never insisted on it, nor am I preaching that everyone should follow what I believe. If you think this is fascism god help you when true fascism is in power.
thejohnjon: insisting that everyone follow what you decide is "courtesy" is fascism masquerading as tolerance, a belief system which is disturbingly common in today's world
Ziggy_Zugzwang wrote:
A fictional rematch then, like himself.
In All these discussions we are forgetting one perspective: Would Jesus give rematches ?
By style you mean figuring out how to defend against unprincipled and stupid attacks?
REACT IN THE CENTER.