Frustration while losing

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Wrecklass

Tiger Woods trained intensely to handle his emotions. Nobody was better than him for having a horrible hole, and then turning it around afterwards. The trick is letting it go before moving to the next game. Count to a hundred, exercise for a few minutes, whatever it takes to let the frustration go and move on.

PastaOfTheMind
Arcsine26 wrote:

How can one cope with experiencing intense frustration or anger on losing streak in chess ?

I had a thing happening where I was getting frustrated, angry and resigning even when it turns out I was winning. So, every time I'm like "this is a terrible position, what happened?" now I remember I'm not really good at knowing if it's a terrible position or not. And then I usually find something. Or my opponent makes a mistake. Or, I eventually lose and skip the frustration and anger part. Also I highly recommend https://www.amazon.com/Defending-Under-Pressure-Managing-Chessboard/dp/1936277964 even though some of the actual games are over my head it's helping a lot.

whiteknight1968

Don't take it so seriously, its just entertainment.

Wrecklass
Azuresretrogambit wrote:
Wrecklass wrote:

Tiger Woods trained intensely to handle his emotions. Nobody was better than him for having a horrible hole, and then turning it around afterwards. The trick is letting it go before moving to the next game. Count to a hundred, exercise for a few minutes, whatever it takes to let the frustration go and move on.

professional vs an amatuer. an amtuer is going to not turn it around. A proffessional will. Terrible analogy.

Don't be stupid, amateur's can learn from professionals. Happens every day. Kids see a pro and say, I want to learn to do that! No reason an adult can't.

Learn to cope, not whine. This is why we see victimhood as the new normal in the world.

118ra
medelpad skrev:
It comes down to maturing as a chess player. I used to get really frustrated when I lost, now I don’t care nearly as much as I know that I am statistically gonna lose more than 50% of my games.

Seen this a few times and never made sense to me. Please explain how to managed to go from 1000 - 2000 ELO in one year while losing more than 50% of your games.

dokerbohm

and i thought i had problems with chess -- guess its all in the prospective of things i lose a game then i lose another then in the third game my queen gets taken fourth move in and then i give up and watch the screen waiting for my poker game to start -- its all in the angle which you accept defeat -- some of us do it better than others me i don't handle it well after a few games of loss so i understand the manchette thing good thing i don't have one anymore

arnemckinley42

I don’t mind getting mated but when I beat myself with a commanding lead, which seems to be far too common, I go on tilt. Oddly I learned to overcome this at the poker table but the probabilities are much easier to calculate in poker. With chess, probably because I’m a beginner, the losses when I beat myself are a punch in the gut.