how are players around 100-380 so good?

https://www.chess.com/lessons

i meant playing and watching videos by studying, and blundering is just too deadly for me beyond 3 minute games

Also, ratings don't necessarily mean anything unless they've been averaged over a lot of games in a particular game format. E.g., a new account can pick any rating to start with. So some low skill players may start at 1200 and just keep going down till they reach 400, but at least pick up some experience on the way. But you can have good players that start at 400 trying to work their way up from the bottom. Players that are good at rapid may not be good at blitz and vice versa.

i also tried 10 minute games once and its essentially the same

Warning: troll thread. Another beginner who refutes all the advice he receives from those who are not beginners.

?????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????? whats the problem??? im just trying to get some better advice and i get this again???

Be mindful of threats. I looked at your last game and you fell for 2 basic forks, first when white's pawn threatened your bishop and knight and then when the knight forked your rook and queen. You didn't even move the queen, you just moved the bishop to guard it. Also you left multiple pieces en prise (threatened with capture) and took no action. Instead you chased his knight all over the board with your pawns. The knight is the hardest piece to catch, I've learned the best way to handle knights is to attack not where they are but where they will be. Study forks, skewers and discovered attacks, and above all be aware of all threats! If your concept of good is "not leaving anything hanging" then you will not progress beyond the level you are currently at.

I looked at the two most recent games... it was much better than I'd expect from 300.

and whats the problem with the people on this site, some are good and some are like this, whats the cause

is that a bad or a good thing?

In a longer time format you should have ample opportunity to apply some of the <randomly selected from one of the many similar forum posts> principles. If your current "studying" approach isn't working after several months, then you need to do something different. I found the chess.com lessons useful, and there are plenty of guides aimed at players of different ratings "to get you to the next level".

From looking at some of your games, you are making unforced blunders. I.e., it's not that your opponents have crafted a devious trap five moves ahead, but rather you didn't anticipate something they could do to hurt you and got a piece stuck with no escape route. Or you gave away pieces for no reason. Or you created weaknesses in your pawns. Etc. When your opponent makes mistakes, you're often not punishing them. Use the game analysis/report tools to see what you did well and what you didn't. Same for your opponent's moves. Then don't make the same mistakes again.

The base level of chess seems higher than it was 10 or 20 years ago... but the one thing beginners still have is lack of consistency. In the games I saw, players are developing their pieces, and often (not always) capturing free pieces when the opponent blunders... but that's the thing, some moves players are checking for blunders (their own and the opponent's) and some moves are made without checking at all.

It's definitely not an easy habit to develop, but fancy things like tactics and openings and strategy wont save if you're giving away pieces 1 out of every 5 or 10 moves.

I don't know if it's bad or good... but I think some people are being too hard on you when they say your opponents suck.

thank you, you're the only person that cared to actually check

soosybaka678,  Im in that range (mid 300) and sometimes I get a game  that I feel that way also.  When I started I was playing the 10 minute rapid game and found I was rushing myself.   I switched to 30 minute games and not feel so rushed now.  I can't imagine a 3 minute game yet.  

not so wrong

and thanks for the advice

Well, you recently said that you wouldn't play long time controls which will actually give you time to think and help you improve because "blunder is too deadly in those time controls" or something.

I gave you good advice. You spurned it.

I told you your opponents are beginners. You asked why they are so good. They're not. I looked at your games. Follow the advice above, you will improve.

Months is not a long time.

ok thanks ill try to follow your advice