How do you deal with losing games? Please no politically correct answers. Be honest.

I get, so angry with myself. I will often hurt myself by hitting a wall or throwing a object. This is the only game that has produced these toxic feelings when I lose. I try to be positive or review my game and learn, but especially when its something insanely stupid like hanging my queen I want to bang my head against a brick wall, because my brain is useless! Should a person quit chess if they have this sort of toxic anger? How do you deal with these feelings? I can't be the only one right???

Okay, honestly. Chess is not your problem, it is merely creating the environment for you to act out what is inside of you, unchecked anger. Address the anger not the game. You can do this. Wish you well.

Not complaining friend just seeing if any other fellow chessers have a similar problem and how they cope. Thankyou for your thoughtful input. Im not much of a grande fan. I do like The kiffness though...

Ok I will, perhaps I could even try some Taylor Swift.... With a dash of masochism....👍

Most days I just play more I recommend playing until you win one game even if you tilt below 300 points usually I do pretty well at tilting but if I have something else I need to do like school or a test I have to study for I can get mad sometimes

Tilt recovery is a handy skill if you can figure out how to increase in rating/win more games after tilt it shouldn't hurt too much

play unrated games until your locked-in and try to play longer games, also antichess and similar variants are really effective at helping you spot blunders, thats one of the things I do when I calculate, I find the worst moves first and then I find candidate moves. Hopefully you can get that anger under control, also I think the thing that is making you angry is ELO maybe play on zen mode and try to not care if you lose elo because you will eventually gain it back if you study your games

also, you aren't the only one https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5K6W57k8ql0

Go to therapy.

I cry

Whenever you lose a game, stop playing and analyse it thoroughly.
That channels the negative emotions of the loss towards a positive goal: improving.

You are not the only one, but in any case, the reactions you described seem disproportionate, to say the least.

How can you deal with that ? Give the right importance to things. There is no need to make a tragedy out of a lost chess game. You're not fighting for the national title...

Relax, and have fun !

Play most of your games against Stockfish. You'll probably lose them all, but it doesn't feel so bad because so does everybody else.

I deal with losing games the exact same as with winning games. I take a pause, analyze the game, then do something else, possibly still chess related.

"How do you deal with losing games? Please no politically correct answers. Be honest."

I recommend a big group hug followed by sitting down and listening to a good drag-queen story teller about the ne'er do welling of our own demographic....
Other than that I don't believe there is anything better than a good laugh at ourselves...

there is no way to tell you how.. actually there is no need.

it's all about psychology, if you have complexes then you gonna have hard times, and nothing can convince you otherwise.

just play and lose as you can tolerate, find your limits. i wont bother and tell you 'see it as an experience' because it simply wont work.

I have seen the most problematic people here on chess.com forums. i observe them, their words and biases.. responses. Chess players have complexes a lot.. no shame in that. just accept and deal yourself.

Not caring as much is how I handle it. Of course, that might also be why I don't improve.

Care but don't get mad try to win while learning how to win correctly and also loss corretly

gg

If chess isnt the game for them, well, thats for everyone to decide for themselves.