When people disconnect, they are given a certain amount of time to reconnect; However, this does not stop the main clock. Disconnected or not, the main clock will continue to tick.
The aborts are being chosen by the other player. they only have this option on the first move.
People are deliberately using the 3 minute disconnection count to buy themselves thinking time.
The live game keeps aborting for no reason. I’m running on a state of the art optical fiber so there is no chance of the problem being on my end.
Overall the experience is very glitchy and sketchy.