i have to break this yoke

thats a good question i dont know

You should be proud if you can still win after being down a queen and two rooks. 

But seriously, the queen and rooks are your main mating pieces. Winning becomes more difficult for anybody without them. Better players would have an advantage when they're off the board because they can utilize the minor pieces better, and/or have better knowledge of endgame strategy.

Is your opponent also losing his queen and rooks so the trades are even? But you just have difficulty mating using bishops and knights?

Or ... are you losing your queen and rooks in uneven trades? If so, those uneven trades are the problem.  Coming back after you're down significant material is much more difficult than keeping things even in the first place.

Can you post a game where you got hurt by uneven trades so that somebody can explain how to avoid those?

OK, here's a recent one you played.  Now you were playing against someone rated almost 700 points ahead of you, so most of us would have lost given that skill difference.  Still, uneven trading hurt you very early in the game.

Heh, nice puzzle. I'd be happy with this win too.

I don't know anything about Kieseritzy, but it didn't look like he played like a high rated player even though he's up two rooks at the beginning of this puzzle.

uneven trade is really a problem...you are so right

Look at move 3.  You protected your knight, but it was threatened only by a pawn. Your opponent was happy to have you capture her pawn if she could take your knight off the board.

In 11, the queen trade was initiated by your opponent, but you could have avoided it if you hadn't captured the pawn on that rank until something (either a knight or bishop) protected the queen.

I'll get out of the way and let others comment on openings, controlling the center, and other items where I still stink.  But keep the relative value of pieces in mind.  Try not to trade a knight for a pawn or a rook for a bishop.  Make your opponent pay an equal price for anything he removes from the board.

wow thats a fantastic winning...i solved the puzzle without stress.but what if the queen as been lost earlier before this position?

hmmmm(big sigh) you need to see the way she go against the rule of "not moving a piece twice until after move 10"(IM Daniel Ranch). you have been much of a help today my friend @black_locust.would you mind me staying in touch with you?if you know what that mean

I loose my queen and my rooks and winning becomes difficult for me,why?

When I first saw the title, I thought it was joke, kind of "I was amputated of both hands and now I cannot do push-ups anymore, why ?". I was disappointed.

bdexchess, I'll send a friend request so that staying in touch is easy.

I've heard the rule of not moving a piece twice in the first few moves also. I don't understand it as well as others, but I think it's to avoid wasted moves so that you don't needlessly give up the momentum in the game.  It is, as I understand, secondary to protecting high-value pieces and avoiding uneven trades.

They're only guidelines. They should be followed, but not strictly. The difference between her not following the guidelines versus your not following it is she takes advantage of the difference by simply having better material. Ask yourself, how did you take advantage of her moving a piece twice?

i never got a chance to take advantage of her moving a piece twice

i have seen people we started chess about the same time mated with a bishop,knight,the king and a pawn(the pawn did not get promoted),though his opponent had two bishops and the king only on the board.what do you have to say about that?

Stop playing blitz. Not good for education if you want to improve.

Every time you look at a position, do an UPS check.

UPS means Unprotected Piece Scan. Look for all pieces which are not defended, or attacked by a pawn. Also for pieces which are attacked more times than it is defended.

If you alarm blinks (one of the 3 things above is happening) try to defend. Also of course notice your opponents pieces, and see if you can make a DOUBLE ATTACK or something like that.