Lack of Respect?




yeah... anything can happen in a game of chess.
u may think u have the game in ur hands but u can slip up anytime e.g lose of concentration and then ur game has gone.

I'm new at playing chess so regularly, and I thought it would be considered rude to resign from a game. Even when all was lost, I thought that denying my opponents the satisfaction of checkmating me would be considered very rude. Now I know it isn't.

Being affirmatively rude by actually requesting that your opponent resign is far worse that not resigning when your opponent thinks you should. If you're winning past the point when you would resign were you your opponent, I think it's best to just assume some benign reason for your opponent's failure to resign--like perhaps your opponent is more optimistic than you are, or maybe just less experienced than you are. And I've seen very good players simply miss a forced mate against them. If it turns out that your opponent is really just hoping you disconnect or get bored and leave, well, that reflects on your opponent, not you. Just don't play that person again.
Almost as bad as requesting that your opponent resign is offering a draw a second time (after your opponent has declined your first draw offer) before your opponent has offered a draw back to you. It would be nice if there were an actual rule against that so that websites could prevent that from happening by simple programming. In a live game on another website, I once had an opponent (who was way down in material and position) offer me a draw something like a dozen times in the space of a couple of minutes.

Here's the key: Those who assume that an opponent who is clearly beaten should resign at that point are assuming that the world owes them respect, or anything. The world doesn't owe you or me a thing, that's just a life lesson. You have to earn what you get, and sometimes you must continue to earn your daily bread. Respect isn't an exception to this rule.
In chess, nobody owes anyone a resignation. Resigning is a gesture coming from the losing player's mindset. It comes not when the winning player is supremely confident of victory, but when the losing player is supremely convinced of defeat. It has Nothing to do with what the winning player feels.
Lastly, as others have suggested, if you are upset about how long an opponent continues the game after he "should" have resigned, you need more practice on finishing games.