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Parents constricting child playing chess
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Jan 20, 2014
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#3
I think the problem is far worse it is parents living their dreams through the childrien.
the parent may had a dream of becoming a world class soccer player now he thinks by making him work hard he can become the star that the parent dreamed about. they push chrildren so hard.
I have seen it over and over.
chrildren getting 18 and don't want to play chess or play soccer anymore because it wasn't their dream - they just didn't dare telling the parents. luckily I didn't experience this myself.
Jan 20, 2014
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#4
Do you mean "conscripted" into playing chess. Constricting means shrinking or limiting.
I'm not a native speaker, so I don't know the correct word.
Some parents are just selfish and childish. The child have to wait for adulthood to escape.
I bet some of them are just taking advantage of cheap daycare for the kids. Someone posted in another thread how parents will sometimes dump the whole brood at a local tournament when really only one of the kids is interested in chess. He wasn't happy about having to play a disinterested 7 year old...
I like chess, but I'm happy that I chose to play on my own at 16, if my parents would have force me play chess I'll probably hate them
Sportsman9 wrote:
Gracias. Really. Thank you. I am sure all of us here, the Canadian, the Dane, and myself, realized that but possessed enough tact to refrain from pointing out the obvious.
You know people have names, not just flags ?
Jan 20, 2014
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#10
Sounds cruel to me. 4 & 5 year olds should not be left alone, they should be brought to a child care center or school or something where they can be supervised. And its rude to the adults in the chess club to be forced to put up with a bunch squalling children.
Jan 20, 2014
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#11
It's cruel to inflict children on chess players. They should be inflicted on sportsman9.
Who were you before sporty?
steve_bute wrote:
It's Carlsen's fault.
In Canada, it's Wayne Gretzky's fault that parents force their kids into ice hockey.
My parents never forced me.
Jul 22, 2021
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#13
I agree that kids should do what they like. When I was 4-5 years old, I took an interest in my dad’s chess set from his childhood and wanted to learn how to play the game. But at this age many kids are forced into it, but I made my own decision. I did stop playing for a while, but I learned the game again at 12 years of age after my interest sparked again. But sadly the case with these teenage grandmasters is that they were forced to play chess almost their whole life. Take the case of Abhi Mishra, the current youngest GM. The only reason he’s a GM at 12 is because he learned the game at 2 years old. Two years! And of course a child this age is not good at making their own decisions, so the decision was made for him. Very sad if you think about it.
Jul 22, 2021
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#14
seshaww wrote:
I agree that kids should do what they like. When I was 4-5 years old, I took an interest in my dad’s chess set from his childhood and wanted to learn how to play the game. But at this age many kids are forced into it, but I made my own decision. I did stop playing for a while, but I learned the game again at 12 years of age after my interest sparked again. But sadly the case with these teenage grandmasters is that they were forced to play chess almost their whole life. Take the case of Abhi Mishra, the current youngest GM. The only reason he’s a GM at 12 is because he learned the game at 2 years old. Two years! And of course a child this age is not good at making their own decisions, so the decision was made for him. Very sad if you think about it.
Yea I was told that Abhi was not allowed to interact with any other kids his age... at tournaments his parents would literally control his every move (no pun intended lol)
Just encase you forgot, you're telling everyone else what someone else's experience was. You're acting like Mishra doesn't enjoy playing chess. So what you're essentially saying is that the family told people they "forced" their child to play at two years of age and that he "was not allowed to interact with any other kids his age". You clearly need to rethink what you're saying.
Jul 22, 2021
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#16
Part of the reason i quit coaching in person is because of parents forcing chess on the kids. And when the kid wasn't a GM 6 months later, i have parents asking me what im doing wrong?
"Why isnt my kid a GM by now?
I find way to many parents force chess on the kids, and some actually think im a day care center.
Jul 22, 2021
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#17
Naturefam108 wrote:
Just encase you forgot, you're telling everyone else what someone else's experience was. You're acting like Mishra doesn't enjoy playing chess. So what you're essentially saying is that the family told people they "forced" their child to play at two years of age and that he "was not allowed to interact with any other kids his age". You clearly need to rethink what you're saying.
Im just saying what ive heard others say... i don't mean disrespect to Mishra or his family
Kids can not think that young. It is important to let them find activities that suit their interests. If the child ends up not liking chess (Or any activity being forced on the child), the child will feel like a prisoner.
Parents aren't sadists, I don't know why everyone is generalizing that all parents who have young kids playing chess are "forcing" them to do so or to use the game as some sort of "day care center". @Chessboardvirtuoso , I think we're disregarding the fact that when people or more specifically, kids, lose games it is very frustrating. Chess is a tedious game and sometimes we get frustrated easily and sometimes we have our bad days. Just think realistically; chess is a tyke game and parents are there to encourage them. Also, not everything we are sent to is something we have keen interest in, so its okay to dislike something, it's just trying out different fields.
Jul 22, 2021
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#20
Naturefam108 wrote:
Parents aren't sadists, I don't know why everyone is generalizing that all parents who have young kids playing chess are "forcing" them to do so or to use the game as some sort of "day care center". @Chessboardvirtuoso , I think we're disregarding the fact that when people or more specifically, kids, lose games it is very frustrating. Chess is a tedious game and sometimes we get frustrated easily and sometimes we have our bad days. Just think realistically; chess is a game and parents are there to encourage them. Also, not everything we are sent to is something we have keen interest in, so its okay to dislike something, it's just trying out different fields.
Who posted "all parents"?
What do you think about the parents who constrinct their child to play chess? I read about 3-4 years old playing in tournaments (!!!) and I also experienced this myself. In my chess club, there are some 4-5 years old who are constricted to play by their parents, they leave them at the club and usually they don't want to play, so they start to cry, shout or do a lot of chaos, like throwing pieces, ecc because they got bored playing chess.