I hear you! I prefer the singular "they, them, their" - though it would give my English teachers heart attacks. I try to use the proper gender when I am sure of the gender of the person to whom I am speaking/writing.
I'm not really into zie, hir, and the like.
I started playing chess when I was five........after I saw the classic game Carpet v. Djinn in Disney's Aladdin, I begged my dad to teach me, got hooked, and the rest is history. I've always been proud to call myself a chess player, and, like most five-year-olds, I didn't think too deeply about what it meant to be a female one........in chess, a bishop in the hands of a six year old girl is of equal strength to a bishop in anyone else's – it was incredibly empowering!
Fastforward twenty-two years, and I've only just begun to study chess seriously, but I take real pleasure in watching both my library and my skill level grow little by little....it's a beautiful (if frustrating) experience. Still, one irksome detail continues to disturb me – the nearly ubiquitous use of MALE pronouns to refer to chess players in general.
Take John Watson's second volume of 'Mastering the Chess Openings' – over 300 pages of theory, and the words 'she, her, hers, and herself' do not seem to appear ONE SINGLE TIME while their male counterparts appear many hundreds if not thousands of times. This is not a book that came out in 1920 which might elicit an eyeroll and a free pass for 'a different time', it was first printed in 2007! I'm definitely not singling out poor Dr. Watson here, virtually every chess book I've ever bought, every chess lecture I've sat in on, every article I've read, and every video I've looked at on Chess.com does the same thing: “White to move, what should HE do?”
It could be said that no particular harm is done by the universal 'he' in chess – it's not like people are deliberately disrespecting Judit Polgar when they look at a hypothetical position and say “He should put his knight on c5”. But I think this view fails to consider the sheer totality of male pronoun usage in chess – even world class female players such as the Polgar sisters and Alexandra Kosteniuk use the universal he....you might say that English is a second language for them, but many time U.S. women's champion Irina Krush uses it too! This is not some random curiosity that has no known origin – this is a full blown, systemic decision throughout the global chess community that there is no need to bother updating patriarchal language in our game, and, when you consider the scale of this 'oversight', it's simply appalling.
I might be accused of trying to enforce arbitrary political correctness here, but I truly do not believe this to be the case – I learned to play chess before I learned to read........this game is IN me – it goes as deep into my past as it does for 'any Russian schoolboy' – and when I read “HE HIM HIS” in every chess book and hear “HE HIM HIS” in every chess lecture, I get the sense that I've been written out of the story along with every other female chess player when I couldn't tell you what kind of person I'd be if I'd never learned to play chess.
Pronouns matter - they matter because women play, women study, and women should not be assumed out of existence by the use of a universal 'he'.
----- A <3