Rude Players

How many members of this site would you say suffer from these problems?

Yeah, that's what I thought.

I like rude players; you dont have to talk to them  HEHE... Also If I dont wanna swap plum pudding recipes with someone b4 the game I will rectify the situation after the game  or during I will convey short subleties....mostly we're all cool........we are here to play chess, that dont mean to critisize them for the kind of car they drive.   If I sound a little obtuse it's because I played too much chess as a kid.

......right on!!

 I understand that, but if someone can't take the time to respond,"sorry, I prefer not to chat", etc., before the first move or two then it is rude to some degree.  How much effort does it take to plan the first two moves that someone would be unable to communicate?

I come to play chess here and not to chat, or write out responses why I do not want to play with someone. Calm your ego vance917. If you want to chat find a chat room.

I agree that it's rude for a player to ignore a greeting such as "How are you?" after they've already agreed to a game. (On a similar note, GM Nigel Short actually won a game recently because his opponent twice refused to shake his hand before the match, which is against FIDE rules. They did resume the match at a later date, but that is another story...) But I disagree that ignoring a challenge is rude. A person is not obligated to respond to each and every player (known and unknown) who seeks a game. For example, if I send a letter to Gary Kasparov in Russia to request a correspondence game and he doesn't respond, is he really being rude? Or, using a different analogy, if one chooses not to respond to an unsolicited e-mail (not spam) from an unknown person, is that also rude? In both cases, I vote No.

Honestly, if people don't respond I think its just through ignorance of not knowing about the option to disable chat, not to actually offend you. Please bear in mind that a lot of people don't feel confident enough to want to talk on the internet, due to the vast ways they could be bullied or abused online, though to many of us this idea seems ridiculous, especially with the mostly friendly people on the site. But online is not the same situation as day to day life, please appreciate that and try not to take offence so easily, as it leads to more hostile feelings in a sort of destructive cycle.

So Try to be a little more forgiving and the place will be overall more friendly rather than more hostile :D

What is what you thought... surely you don't think nobody out has these kind of problems because you don't see it? This would be the perfect place to play if a physical disability left you with enough gross motor skills to make a move with a mouse with no time pressure and the ability to try again if it wasn't right, but robbed you of fine motor skills needed to effectively chat online. If the membership here is representative of the population there should be over 100 with Dyslexia serious enough to cause problems communicating throught chat.

Of course, this is hardly the point. Whether it's a disablility or something else, people's lives are full of circumstances we never would have guessed. It might be as simple as the guy who has to sneak moves in when the boss isn't watching, you just can't know. Yes lots of people are just plain rude and this is a great social ill. But when we're ready to assume, based on nothing more than a non-response to a chat room greeting, that we know the score and it's cause to cry foul it seems to me we're looking too hard for things to get offended over. This too is a great social ill.

Good point.

e2e4 - Why don't you only play the computer then? When you play with your friends otb, do you just play in silence the whole game?

My assumption was that people chose to play other people online to get to meet people from all over. If this is truly supposed to be a community, then a simple greeting should not be out of the question. At least do it for the opponent...

Do you know how rude it is to drag on a dead lost game -- which is completly boring for the other player -- and then get out-raged at the fact they dont want to beat you down again?

...I dont really respond because I dont really want to talk -- frankly, I don't give a shit about your life, the weather, football, or your opinion on the french defence.

^ I have enough crappy conversations in real life as it is.

also, I find players who say "good luck", and "good game" to be highly offensive. -- the former suggests that I need luck because I cannot crush you with skill, and the secound becomes offensive when the game was anything but good....its like a patronising pat on the head.

so, as demonsrtated, all you talkative players are damn rude, bothering me with your insignificant life and opinions, trying to coax me in triviality and then have the cheek to suggest I need luck -- you c***' 

I actually play with computer as well, Checkers4me. And no I do not come here to meet people, just to compare my skills, plus computers are different all together. What do you normally ask, let me guess - asl? got pic?....

Blackadder >

 Mate are you drunk or just in need of anger management?

 Funny you talk about offensiveness when your post was enough to make a construction worker blush lol. Man you should think about that fact that some people who come here find that kind of language and tone upsetting ( not to mention the kids.)

I don't ask questions normally. I just say "Hi" or "Hello" or "Hey" <--depends on the mood i'm in.

I am willing to bet that you visit chatrooms on a regular basis, you have the lingo down. Plus, if I wanted to know their "asl" information, I would look at their profile. Most people have pics of some sort on their profile as well.

I wonder why you ignored my question regarding you playing your freinds otb...

I don't have an ego, but I do have a personality.  You might want to try it some time.

Someone else's assumption might be that people are here to play chess and that those who are interested in meeting people from all over would go to a site dedicated to that. I'm not suggesting it's wrong to want to chat, meet fellow chess players from around the world etc., I think it's a pretty healthy attitude. It's good to appreciate the differences in people. Part of this, though, is people will have different ideas about what they want to experience at this site. So long as nobody overtly offends me what earthly good would it do to get upset over those differences?