Rude refusals of challenges

Why do so many people get out of rematches by ticking the box "I am not available for play." I KNOW YOU ARE AVAILABLE FOR PLAY. I WAS PLAYING YOU FIVE MINUTES AGO. Some people are so rude.

Well, stereotypically, people who end up playing chess weren't originally the most socially competent people in the world, so there's probably alot of pent up sexual frustration that they can momentarily forget about by winning chess and pretending they have a kind of mental dominion over other people. So running away is just keeping the illusion alive. That's my thoughts on it anyway =)

It's a setting on your profile that many people leave ticked, it's not as though they are quickly running to change it out of fear of a rematch, or choosing the wording themselves.  There's nothing rude about not wanting unsolicited challenges, and I suspect less people would tick the box if a refusal didn't entail the 'please explain why not' box, which is frankly just annoying.

You can still use the message or notes system to offer rematches.  Or you can never give your opponents the least inkling they have offended your delicate sensibilities and start a thread on how rude they are being.

 Quitting while you are ahead is childish behaviour. I always give at least one rematch to those who ask for it. If you don't want a challenge then you should be made to explain why. Also the box is by default set to allow challenges so the person must have decided they don't want to play a game rather than just left it.

What in the world do these two things have to do with each other?  Just because I finished a game recently has no bearing on whether or not I have time for another.

Some people are indeed rude, but it might not be who you think it is.

Why should you have to explain why you don't want every challenge that comes in?  That's precisely why there is an option to not allow challenges which again is not game specific.  It's not quitting while ahead or rude in any way if they never know you issued a challenge, which is again why I refer you to the message or notes system.

Just b/c i had time to play one game doesnt mean I have more time to play you again.

My Mom used to say "If you are disapointed you expected to much"

The IRS says "you must always pay more tax"

I like my mom......

Is this talking about Live Chess or Turn-Based Chess?

If your rating is much lower than mine, then if i lose to you it will hurt my rating alot, and isn't worth the effort.  I try and play people at least 50 points higher than me , or close to my rating for that reason.  I try and explain that politely if  i decline a match.... it's easy to get matches here i wouldn't get upset about an occasional rejection...

I think kissing is right people are to worried about the rating plumeting like a bag of rocks if they lose. .....

If it was a good game then I'm more likely to give a rematch. But if it was completely one sided then I'm not interested. I'd rather play people who I can have competitive matches with.

I agree with a lot of the reposnses here. 

Just because you've played a game it doesn't mean an opponent is duty bound to accept a rematch.  This assumption occurs on a lot of chess sites & not just this one.  I was abused on FICS a couple of days ago for this very reason.  Too bad I had to go to work :)

You have absolutely no idea your opponents circumstances and your assumption actually makes you seem a little rude.  Perhaps this is why your opponent refused another game?

Perhaps you are so far above them skill wise they don't believe playing you again so soon would benefit their chess development or confidence? Or perhaps you were such easy fodder for them the same can also apply?

If your ego really needs you to play two games against the same opponent you should mention this to them while playing & ask if they would mind playing two games concurrently?

Another one may be: There are 500,000 people registered on chess.com  If your goals is to play as many different people as possible, rematches may get in the way of this?

Cheers Vlad

Let's face it, etiquette is that you give one white, one black.

I DON'T WANT TO PLAY O.K  !!!

i was about to waste my t

Is this on live chess or on turn-based chess.

This is more of a passive-aggressive style of dealing with the "rematch problem".

Rude is acting as though you are entitled to a rematch.