Hi,
Having been through the process myself (and I believe I have recovered from this), I thought I'd share my experiences and recommendations on how to handle the situation. To give you some perspective, I'd be playing bullet probably a couple of hours a day for a year or two, and I essentially had to re-evaluate my life and priorities before moving on:
As much as you've heard this, taking a break from chess would break the vicious cycle from a mental perspective. I decided to close various accounts for around 2 months just so simply tell my brain NOT to visit a chess site and watch games. Even things like Youtube subscriptions and opening analysis was banned during this period. I believe this was crucial in helping me recover from the routine that was chess. During this period, I was able to be more productive in my precious time, and sleep better in the evening. I believe this phase to be difficult, but actively telling the brain not to visit a chess site reduced my dependency and compulsion to play chess.
Just recently, I decided to make a comeback in chess, and my perspective on the game has really changed. The games were no longer "addictive" as such, and I no longer felt angry after losing. A vicious cycle most online chess players face is down to the time they spend (or waste) playing bullet. By dedicating “x” amount of time, they feel compelled and deserving to earn rating points. When you start losing, you feel cheated…. and start to reclaim what was lost. Such compulsive behaviour really is no different to gambling, and that is the ultimate deception to online chess (it is free for kids and adults to play, and totally accessible from a laptop screen). Do not let the benign nature of it con your thinking that online chess is harmless.
Anyhow, that was my story, here are a couple of things I thought I’d share which I though would be helpful in recovering:
- Accept that a lower chess rating will come down to less time playing/studying chess, and NOT that you became a weaker chess player. The act of losing can cause self-depreciation and may cause you to doubt your own ability. By simply countering this false argument, you would no longer feel angry after losing a chess game. If chess is not your priority (which for 99.99% of non-professional chess players), then accepting your losses is critical in personal self-development. That is not to say a chess player shouldn’t care about their losses, but simply understand that there are more important things in life.
- Do NOT allow yourself to become bored. Much of my chess time was spent by being somewhat isolated. I believe this was one of the reasons why I would see myself returning to playing chess so often. Boredom itself can be a dangerous, self-depreciating stage in life. If you happen to be bored, finding “other” alternatives and saying no to chess is crucial in recovering.
It is ok to indulge in chess activities once in a while (it is not all doom and gloom). After all, the game has cerebral and mental benefits pertinent to any walk of life you happen to enter. By engaging the brain every now and then, you make sure this neurotic muscle gets it’s fair share of exercise like every other part of the body.
Anyway, I think I’ve said enough, hope that was helpful. 
think of the purpose of your life,think of the meaning of your life, take your time to think it,hopely you'll get the answer to make yourself better...
thanks, I have lots to think about. Thanks for the response