The more i know, the more i lose, why?
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What is your OTB rating?
Stop being afraid of weak opponents. Think of them as obstacles you just have to find a way to get across. If you are 1600 OTB, beat a 1300 with the same moves you would play against an 1800.
Thought process probably.
I think it's a common phenomenon. When you learn stuff you are looking for ways to implement it causing you to overlook basic simple other stuff. You'll also think a lot more so you don't play as open minded as you used to
Oct 29, 2012
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#5
Man,don't sweat it. You're doing better than I am. I don't even know what "despate" means...much less find a creative way to despate all kinds of new knowlege. Sounds like you've learned so much it's become psychologically crippling to you with anxiety. Just relax and make good moves. Don't let your hands get clammy.
Play bullet. Then it doesnt matter if you lose.
Look, you always will lose won positions, and it always hurts. Here I was, in the last round of a tournament up two pawns with hundreds of players at 4-0 on board 1 and good chances of winning the entire tournament. What happens? This:
Just keep playing, and it will straighten out.
In the meantime, here is a little psychology that might help:
Embrace your fear. Examine it, don't try to push it away. Does your fear have a color? a shape? a texture? a sound? a taste? a smell? Where does it lie on your body? These are just tricks to get you to look at your fear. They work.
If possible, you might want to stick to slow time controls while you are doing this : )
gl
Oct 29, 2012
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#9
You have to get used to winning. That's all. Your fear may be more fear of winning than fear of losing. To get over that try to play for losing, instead of play for winning.Then you will lose, but you will find out what the fear is about. I am convinced, that if you can find creative ways of losing, then you can as well find creative ways of winning. In the end one learns from losing and from winning.
Oct 29, 2012
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#10
You're playing for the wrong reasons. You should be playing chess because it's fun and you enjoy it. If you're focused on having fun, the losses won't matter.
elizabethlonehvid wrote:
You have to get used to winning. That's all. Your fear may be more fear of winning than fear of losing. To get over that try to play for losing, instead of play for winning.Then you will lose, but you will find out what the fear is about. I am convinced, that if you can find creative ways of losing, then you can as well find creative ways of winning. In the end one learns from losing and from winning.
Geez, that's too deep for me
maybe the more you learn the more readable you can become, I suck at chess but I know this from poker, the more experienced you get the tighter you play and you fold to alot of bluffs, dont know if this helps at all or not. I guess its the unpredictablity that you might lack from learning too many book openings or whatever i guess im trying to say.
It is called overgeneralization. When a infant learns to speak, he imitates the patterns that he hears and does well. Then at about two, he becomes aware that there are grammar rules and makes a conscious effort to apply them. He overgeneralizes the grammar rules and his speech seems to take a step back. For instance he realizes that you add "ed" to covert a present tense verb to a past tense verb and say things like "I runed home." It is all part of the learning process and predictable.
Oct 29, 2012
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#14
Just consider losing as a possible outcome, which doesn't tell much about you.
Losing a chess game means you've played one or more bad chess moves. That's all.
Oct 29, 2012
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crunchtime88 wrote:
I am pretty new at tournament play. But it has been tremendously frustrating as I always find creative ways to lose. I start to play passively uncontrollably when i start to fear. The idea of losing to a weaker opponent is so gripping that i start becoming irrrational.
I really feel like i have a much better understand of the game than my rating would indicate, but i despate all this new found knowledge, i am having great trouble putting it together. I find myself losing to weaker opponents as i continue to build a good understanding of the game.
Like my last game, i laid a textbook Lasker trap on my opponent, snatching his queen. Somehow the idea of how embarassing if i would lose this game got a grip of me and i uncontrollably make irrational moves and lose the game.
maybe the truth is that chess in the end is an harsh and brutal game , and that's it ...
Think that there is not such thing as a weaker player, Rating number don't win the game and Psychologically make You feel entitled to a win or to a loose if You play a Higher or lower Rated player. You need play all the games with the same mindset,as if You play against a Master and stay concentrated looking for the best moves and doing Your best. Don't worry about the loses ,is the only way to improve.even GM loses they games
learningthemoves wrote:
Man,don't sweat it. You're doing better than I am. I don't even know what "despate" means...much less find a creative way to despate all kinds of new knowlege. Sounds like you've learned so much it's become psychologically crippling to you with anxiety. Just relax and make good moves. Don't let your hands get clammy.
I'm sorry meow, but it sounded like you said, 'despate.'
measure twice , cut once is advice that i received from a much stonger player. don't look at the board and move take a second look at it before moving. It helped me alot.
Oct 29, 2012
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#19
this is called information overflow. you learn so many things but you need to focus on learning something in particular.
I've been through the same:
I watched more than 25 chess on various subjects videos , gathered some knowledge from 20 pdf books about chess. read various chess articles. read some books.
learning a little on random sujects. No theme.
some authors even have wrong lessons just to sell books. play this and win...
until one from the club gave be an idea. stick to one book.. a good book by Bent Larsen.