You definitely don't understand the way depression works. Regardless, this was for matches in general as well as rematches. Some get angry when you reject a match.
This rematch addiction needs to stop
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Okay DavidIreland, you are blocked officially now. I am fed up with your insolence.
i dont have any problems with rematches, just look at this:
skotheim,
You must be a lucky one.
Nov 8, 2015
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Skotheim - I'm impressed. What is it - 44.5 to 31.5 over some two hours of 1 0 bullet play?
Quite incredible.
Nov 8, 2015
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#7
Some are addicted to rematches; others suffer from addiction to an endless stream of new opponents. A precious few need sleep so they can go to church, school, work, ...
I remember refusing a rematch several years ago because my girlfriend was saying, "honey, come to bed." We're married now.
The only thing I can think of that's more a waste of time than playing chess online is going to church.
takeoffeh,
I find that comment offensive and completely unrelated to the topic of this forum which is about rematch addictions. The fact that the incident involved church is entirely incidental. This happens to me when I have Latin class at times as well and can't take a rematch.
site history and politics aside,
Is there a proper internet etiquette for rematch offers? This is from a newbie just looking to learn.
Calling other people nasty words, making false accusations about them only playing with the white pieces, etc.--this certainly is NOT proper rematch etiquette.
Nov 8, 2015
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<Ziryab> at #9 - +1 for getting life priorities right :-) !!!!
<NewEngland7> at #11 - +1 too.
<Mcfmover> #12 - a lot of people talk a lot of bull... offer a rematch if you want to play the same opponent again, accept a rematch if you want to play the same opponent again - that's the simplicity of it.
newengland7 wrote:
Calling other people nasty words, making false accusations about them only playing with the white pieces, etc.--this certainly is NOT proper rematch etiquette.
Why not? In many countries such things are considered politeness.
Raspberry Yoghurt says:
"Why not? In many countries such things are considered politeness."
My response:
Those countries are etiquettely backward then. I find it extremely rude and offensive and it needs to stop.
newengland7 wrote:
Raspberry Yoghurt says:
"Why not? In many countries such things are considered politeness."
My response:
Those countries are etiquettely backward then. I find it extremely rude and offensive and it needs to stop.
Well maybe you could learn something from them. "There's more than one way to skin a lion" as they say.
From the way I see it. Nobody needs to accept rematches if they do not want to. You can't force someone to have a rematch with you. It is what it is. Either they want to or they don't. No ands or buts about it.
RaspberryYoghurt
The only thing I need to learn from countries that are etiquettely backward is how not to behave.
It is fairly common etiquette to play a rematch, due to the inherent imbalance in chess. If you have other obligations that prevent you from playing a rematch the simple fix is to tell your opponent, preferrably at the beginning of the game. Taking a few seconds to type "sorry, really tired and have an early morning" or something similar can prevent most of what you are upset about. Even internet shorthand (gg, gtg) is preferable to someone just leaving without a word after a match.
On the other hand, none of that excuses his/her behavior afterward.
"It is fairly common etiquette to play a rematch"
Ummm...no, it is NOT common etiquette to play a rematch. NO ONE is entitled to a rematch.
Also, I have chat disabled due to bad experience with people having bad behavior in the past. Also, my particular opponent doesn't allow people commenting on his profile either.
I think we need a special group on this website called "rematch-a-holics anonymous" or "RA" for short. Last night, it was midnight (my time), I have to get ready for church the next morning and I just finished delivering a blow to this poor guy (name unmentioned though I will show the game replacing his name with an "NN") and so I kind of want to go to bed so I don't miss church. The next morning as I'm getting ready to go, I stumble across my page and I see a very nasty message calling me a very nasty word (word unmentioned). Any way, he's on my blocked list now but I don't think any one on this website really needs to be receiving such nasty messages after not accepting a match and/or rematch. There are several reasons why people would not want a match/rematch--a) they like playing other people, b) they don't want to play chess right now for some reason (depressed, sleepy, have homework--some people on here also have school!!!), or c) they don't want to play with you get over yourself. At least this time my opponent can't provide a false accusation that I "only play as white" and then I run because unless he's colour-blind, I clearly had the black pieces in this game.