One add-on:
I did start playing a lot again around 2012. Thisis when I met a friend, who loved chess as much as I do. We were almost the same strength, but complete opposite styles. I am kinda the grin-them-down-in-the-endgame sorta player. He was the sac-everything-and-mate-them kinda player.
So we often went to tournaments together. Would be nothing for me to walk over to his board, and see him sitting there with a smug grin on his face, while being a rook down on the board. Material meant nothing to him.
But he passed away unfortunately, and I have since fallen out of tournament chess.
great post. thank you, we need more of threads like thd. ill contribute asap, for now I'll just enjoy the stories of you guys :)