Why do opponents not REMATCH?

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Charles008

1. A game ends and the opponent perhaps wins but disappears when you ask for a rematch!?

2. You win and do give a rematch but if your opponent then ties the score he or she leaves!!?

There is a pattern and my theory is that it has to do with the age group that makes up most of the membership here at chess.com. When I look closely at the photos or icons of the players here I suddenly notice their age. Teenagers, video game players, "Mama's boys" (constantly putting up photos of their parents.)

I've already been put on notice by management to curve my taunts and use of profanity and they're right. Online chess clubs are mostly inhabited by young people and I have to accept o

it and their manner. 

Is it PRIDE that makes them shy away from confrontation?

Is it the preservation of their point totals, rank?

Is it some maneuver to leave an opponent dissatisfied?

NikkiLikeChikki
I never rematch.

I analyze my game after every one. I don’t rematch because it prevents me from learning from my mistakes while the game is fresh in my mind.
Nordvind

Maybe they are not aware that they are forced to play rematch, until the opponent is happy?

NorthernGoshawk

It is their choice

NikkiLikeChikki
Right before I turned off my chat, I refused to rematch with a dude. He played a trappy opening that I calmly refuted. He demanded a rematch and I told him I didn’t like the way he played. Then all the toxic misogynistic language started.

Honestly, people who demand rematches are often jerks. Why would I want to play them?

Plus I like to analyze my games.
TheMoistOstrich

I don't think the age or pride has anything to do with refusing rematches. I along with many others analyze the game right after. Sometimes people need to leave their computer. You might be over analyzing and speculating something that isn't there. I also like to play new people every game rather than going down the same line and opening which has happened before when I accepted a rematch.

Charles008

I accept the logic of all your responses. 

There is validity in all of your answers.

After reviewing your responses I now realize many may just be reviewing the game they'd just won or lost. I never though about that. Or perhaps it's only a select few (hundreds, thousands) that are students of the game who engage in productive study. 

Of course people don't have to accept one's rematch. And yes people have other things to do.

duntcare
llama45 wrote:

Some people use trappy openings and want the element of surprise so they decline a rematch.

Some people need to run to the restroom, or have food cooking and only had time for 1 game.

But honestly I think some people decline because there are people with an attitude like yours, who think they're owed a rematch. Particularly after they lose, and they're brining all this emotional baggage of their wounded pride. It's like sheesh man, get over it, find another game, maybe you'll win the next one, I'm just playing for fun.

ikr, im the 2nd one, restroom guy, guy who needs 2 go eat, guy whos computer needs to charge, im always that dude

duntcare

i rematch if im 1 trying to obveserve test something, 2 trying to break a world record with a friend like lowest accuracy and we both play bad unrated, 3 if i think its just godly 

duntcare

same, but many things like that, sometimes it like a lot 

Laskersnephew

Dear OP:

Maybe they just don't want to play you. The fact that you have already had to be warned about abusive behavior might give you a clue why

NikkiLikeChikki
There’s also something terribly ironic about blaming “millennials” for their attitudes... when thinking you have some kind of *right* to something like a rematch sounds super cliche millennial to me.
JuicyJ72

Too many rematches happen where the opponent plays with 98.6% accuracy

duntcare
NikkiLikeChikki wrote:
There’s also something terribly ironic about blaming “millennials” for their attitudes... when thinking you have some kind of *right* to something like a rematch sounds super cliche millennial to me.

more like blaming gen z and zz, millennials are not really blamed now, there more already like 20? idk my numbers

duntcare

but yeah 

NikkiLikeChikki
Boomers call anyone under 30 a millennial.
duntcare

1 year old be like: why me

duntcare

im pretty sure rn only above 21 is milenial, others are gen z and gen zz for people who are under 7

NilsIngemar

Better question is why does a person believe he is entitled to a rematch.  You lost, you lost, get over it bub.

Laskersnephew

In ordinary conversation, people almost always say "care for a game of chess?" The almost never say "care for some games of chess?" So why would anybody think they have a right to a rematch?