why so unfriendly?

I was curious what people feel about greetings (good luck) and congratulations (after a loss) before and after games.  I enjoy games being just slightly less anonymous, but I think that is just me being overy sensitive.

Not sure, some people just want to play and concentrate on the game ?

I never said to a player good luck at started of a game but sometimes when a player make a good game with some good move I say "gg" (good game)

For my personal experience in several chess sites players don't chat but that doesn't mean that they are unfriendly. I think that playing with a stranger is somehow a friendly attitude

I'm sorry, I thought it would end the thread, I was feeling that I stirred up more than I was comfortable with.  That is lame and I appopogize.

I think it just becomes that way. Even if you start with the best intentions, if you don't get replies, you wont keep bothering to type good luck etc, just play.

Tad401, so basic you say? Personally I don't mind being told "Good luck" and nine time out of ten I would answer such a battle opening cheer. However nothing makes my blood boil as being told "Good Game" and more so when I know full well I did not come even with in a mile of playing a good game and or it is blantly obvious that ones opponent did not either. To say "Good game" when neither or either have played good chess is just simple ignorance for the sake of pretending to be polite. I would even go so far and say those plebeians who say "good game" after winning a game when clearly they should not have, only do so to rub that very fact in the face of the opponent they have defeated through circumstance rather than skill. Much like every thing with chess, its all relative.

Not sure.  I have been here since last Spring, and just about everyone here has been very friendly and polite. 

Welcome to the internet.  

It seems kind of strange for me to say good game after the game if I won. But maybe if the opponent played really well I might want to say good game. In Norway over the board we shake hands and some times follow up with "thanks for the game".

Yes, thanks for the game seems more universally appropriate than good game. Did you ever play Magnus?

I really don't understand why people use the chat feature at all. The only reason to talk to your opponent is because of the game and there is a button for offering a draw. The last thing I want to hear is some sniveling little bastard trying to be pleasent at the begining of a chess game and I am not allowed to cuss them out for it on this site. "Good game" after the game is rarly apropriate, most games are decided by horrific blunders and are most certainly not  good games. 

Yes I played Magnus in our local club Asker when he was 10 I believe. I won with white versus the kings indian.

Alright...just an observation....sorry to offend.  Also, I never say good game if I won, only when beaten!  (which happends much too often!)

If I played a crappy game and my opponet play alright I usually say "You played a good game."

I think you will find that most unfrendly (if it's the correct term applied) people reply with more or less excuses to your question.  Typically they are the ones that have no sense of sportmanship.  Those characters will most likely even bash this post.

In my opinion it isn't rubing it in the face if you say GL and GG before and/or after the game.  Any other explanation is a way out.

With that said, have a nice day/night all! 

That's mostly how I think too; however if the game was a real battle with back and forth combat and I should prevail or sucumb I will say "Great game, it was a real dogfight" or something similar.

It gets a bit strange when you delete your comment which is the basis for the whole thread tad401..

He's not the first to do it and it is strange.

buen juego

I'm sorry, I thought it would delete the whole thread.  I was feeling like I stirred up more than I meant to.  That is lame and I appologize.