Hello chessmule. I am sorry to hear of the problems you are experiencing in the Live Chess. Please note that the Live Chess is one of the top concerns for our development team and they are working very hard to improve the connection and stability in the Live Chess.
In the mean time I would recommend that you take a look at the http://www.chess.com/echess/ as you should be able to play chess here without any interruptions.
I have lost 3 times already when I had winning position games with a piece up in each game, and with more than 15 minutes for me to play then suddenly these games were interrupted by connection interruptions. Why do these happen to me ? Are my opponents with losing positions intenttionally do these so they will gain d full point to my detriment ?