fair play policy

Supposed to be a 15-20 seconds wait.

http://blog.chess.com/webmaster/live-chess-updates-fair-play--tournaments

"... automated aborts for games where nobody moves at the start! Even if you've lost your ability to abort, you shouldn't have to resign if you get caught in a game where the other guy has decided to walk away. Each player has 15-20 seconds to make their first move in the game. If no move is made, the server will abort the game. This impacts the Fair Play record for the player who fails to move. (So it's better to wait than to impatiently hit the Abort button yourself.)"

From other posters it appears to be buggy.   http://support.chess.com/Tickets/Submit

my opponent disconnected without making one move

I waited more then a minute to abort the game and I still get a warning

aborting the game is the only thong i can do though