I'm sorry you are having such trouble. I'd be glad to help you with this. Will you send me a private message with your new email address or send us a support ticket here: http://support.chess.com/Tickets/Submit
Not getting email for Email Change verification
have a link to send another "activate account" email for gods sake. how hard is that. Impossible to find the answer.
I have submitted my new email address 4 times and I never get the email for verification. Yes I've checked my spam and junk folders. Actually contacting chess.com is like negotiating an unsolvable labyrinth so I guess I'm posting this here in the hopes that someone from the staff will contact and help me.