annoying red alerts of other games

In live chess itself, click on your Settings link

(In basic chess, the Settings link is under the chatroom - For Full board live premium, its top right corner)

Click on the Alerts tab in your settings. You can turn them off from there.

Remember to save changes when you're done :)

thanks... Im not sure I found it though... 
I mean the alerts in the chat window during games...

alerts settings -> 

"ONLINE CHESS: my move, low on time, game challenge, etc."

Is this the one you mean ?

Online ches settings page http://www.chess.com/home/echess_settings.html

Un-check where it says

alert me when it is my move, I am running out of time, or I receive a challenge.

then scroll down and save changes

these annoying alerts are still displayed all the time.

i go crazy when this occures in bullet games all the time, how can it be stopped

permanently?