scared to play anyone

jdroli1070

Hey, I just found this site about a week ago. I have been playing chess off and on for years, including on chess live (if anyone has heard of it). I call myself an intermediate player, and have been beating the computer on level 5 for a little while. The thing is, I am scared to play anyone live...sometimes, I make blunders, on black's long moves, you know what I'm talking about...like when the queen or bishop comes out of nowhere, and swoops down across the board and takes my queen or rook, or worse. I don't know what to do; I'm getting sort of tired of playing against a cpu.

ijgeoffrey
A good way to warm up to playing real players online is to start with only unrated games. This way there is no harm in losing, so the psychological element is gone. Once you feel comfortable playing real players, you can (if you wish) begin playing rated games, and your site rating will most likely be a very accurate reflection of your skill level. :)
jdroli1070

How do you play unrated games?

ijgeoffrey

In Daily Chess, there is a slider (sometimes a pull down menu) when making a challenge to set the game as unrated. In Live Chess, I believe it is the same, but I'm not sure. 

DrSpudnik

Scared to play anyone? What are they going to do, shoot you? Just make a move and save the despair for after a loss. If you don't play, you can't lose. But then you aren't a chessplayer.

jdroli1070
DrSpudnik, excellent point.Thanks for kicking my butt.
DrSpudnik

Any time! Just play and learn from your mistakes.

BTW: I never play computers. They make me feel bad when I inevitably go bad and lose.

Pulpofeira

Good points by everyone! I think it would be also helpful playing OTB as much as possible if you have the chance. 

amin13061989

Pulpofeira wrote:

Good points by everyone! I think it would be also helpful playing OTB as much as possible if you have the chance. 

Pulpofeira wrote: Good points by everyone! I think it would be also helpful playing OTB as much as possible if you have the chance. 

Clifton_Prince

I'm scared, too. I don't want to screw up. Everything you do, goes down on your PERMANENT RECORD.  (And what if I'm ALREADY on Double Secret Probation?)

Seriously. I don't mean this sarcastically or confrontationally, though (obviously) I'm being a little silly. But I do sympathize and empathize with the original-poster and his point of view. I am not really a chess BEGINNER but I'd not rate myself as a REAL player (or, whatever you want to call it) and so the whole idea of playing STRANGERS phreaks me out. I would really like it if I could find CONVERSATIONAL games. Places where opponents would be friendly and say things like, "uh, dude, did you notice that moving your pawn means that you're unpinning your pawn, so I'm going to be able to take your Queen? I don't think ..." in which case I'd be like, "Oh THANKS! Golly doh. I'm still learning ...". But I anticipate instead it will be, "Dumbassbutt, I get to take your Queen! Shazam! You lose! You shouldn't have moved that pawn nyah-nyah-nyah-nyah-nyah-nyah-nyah- ..."

jdroli1070

Egggggs-actly Clifton_Prince. I have always been a poor sport. When I was very young, maybe 37 - 38 years ago, whenever my favorite NFL team would lose, I would run to my bedroom and cry. Given the fact that in the 1970's, there weren't many wins for them, that added up to a ton of tears. Now, during the off-season for american football, I am forced to find something to take up my time.

This site is a lot more personal than Chess.live; this may be a good thing or a bad thing. When you lose here, everybody knows about it. That was why I was scared to play anyone.

GM_SpeedCalculate

Chess is not about whether you win or lose it's about whether I win or lose

AwfulChess101

I totally get what you mean, man. I'm a giant perfectionist, so losing at anything I actually want to be good at gets me really bummed out, so I avoided losing by never playing anybody else. It seems pretty silly, but I still suffer from it. If you're anything like me, then you just have to get over the fear of losing. You're going to lose a lot as you get better and better, so you might as well get used to it . I find that playing friends or people I'm familiar with helps a little bit. Hope this helps.

MariaAk

Wow 2016, I just googled now (scared to play chess) and I found your forum, How are you doing now? 

Drawgood

I am very scared to play over the board.

Chester-a

Coward guys... you are not going to die because of losing..don't be scared..sometime I win, sometimes I loss..I still play chess,if you are still scared, suck your mother breast and give up chess. You can live happily without winning a chess game.

MariaAk
Chester-a wrote:

Coward guys... you are not going to die because of losing..don't be scared..sometime I win, sometimes I loss..I still play chess,if you are still scared, suck your mother breast and give up chess. You can live happily without winning a chess game.

 

My English not good enough, but I'll try to write, I'll tell you what I see, They are very brave people to admit their real feelings, They are nice they are not judging or bullying, You don't know what's going on in their feelings or mind, You are not them and not all people thinking like you, You haven't lived their lives, You don't know what they are suffering, You don't have to like anybody, Just if you want to talk/write BE NICE or leave.

Chester-a

I know..stay calm. I'm just trying to motivate.. Losing can be painful sometimes. But they said"The warriors do not give up" Losing can be blessings if our perspective is positive, we can learn from our mistakes and improve at the game. If we win the games more, it is easy to become cocky. To stay humble, we sometimes need  to be defeated. Losing can be  a diamond lesson. My english is not very good, because im learning.

Chester-a

I'll leave the forum..I have to play chess, bye. Hasta lavista,baby

oI0Io

I'm the last comment now