Swearing

MrKornKid

I tend to, unintentionally, swear during normal chat.  Example; I drop a rook.  I have tendenices to say to myself, "oh s***," as soon as I see it, before he/she moves.

Sometimes I find myself typing things of this nature and context.  Never trying to offend anyone or anything.  I get along great with everyone i've ever met in LIVE chess. In fact quite a number of people I play we either exchange trophies, talk about the game, leave messages on walls congratualting one another or never talk again.  Nothing malicious whatsoever.

So with this filter that is in place that makes it so my opponent cannot see what I am typing, why am I once again banned from live chat when no harm has been done to not one person and the vulgarities I typed in were dealt with via chat filter.

Chess.com...your filter works exactly as you wanted...so why am I banned?

baddogno

Sometimes in life you just have to recognize that there are rules and deal with them.  Your ban is temporary, but learn from it.  Say it, don't type it. Laughing

MrKornKid

You are very right, but I feel like my first instinct when a bad move is made, the second I do it, is to aknowledge to my opponent that, yes I just screwed up HUGE, and might wreck this game.  In order to sum that all up in an instance, "oh sh!t" seems to do it.

I really think that every LIVE opponent I have played has always been nice and respectful to me and has never cheated.  I offer them the same respect.  And if we have an amazing game going it sucks to blunder a piece during a good game. Sometimes I am too quick to point out my mistake in a vulgar way.  Sure, I am wrong, but in no way was I offensive.  Never have been.

Perhaps a chat filter would be better off, or a limited filter.

Baddogno, you are correct on sometimes there are rules and nothing you can do.  But from my experience is that if you gain enough support or have a good enough reason rules can change.

I dunno, just frustrated.  =)

MrKornKid
RonaldJosephCote wrote:

     Tell me about it

Half the reason I don't play LIVE as much as I'd like to.  =)

DrSpudnik

Maybe you should work on anger management instead of tactics.

AlCzervik

Years ago there was an automated mute, ban,...due to the many complaints about sore losers in live chess.

There is now a distinct difference between what is allowed in correspondence games (especially with those that are your friends) and the chat in live.

It's understandable. Live games will be played against anyone, and some may be rude. With the amount of players on live, for a short time, an automated system seems necessary. The chat filter you mention would probably require tons of code that could possibly differentiate your, "oh shit!", from, "you're a shit!".

It'll probably never happen here. Just try to phrase your screwups differently.

Mauve26
MrKornKid wrote:

You are very right, but I feel like my first instinct when a bad move is made, the second I do it, is to aknowledge to my opponent that, yes I just screwed up HUGE, and might wreck this game.  In order to sum that all up in an instance, "oh sh!t" seems to do it.

I really think that every LIVE opponent I have played has always been nice and respectful to me and has never cheated.  I offer them the same respect.  And if we have an amazing game going it sucks to blunder a piece during a good game. Sometimes I am too quick to point out my mistake in a vulgar way.  Sure, I am wrong, but in no way was I offensive.  Never have been.

Perhaps a chat filter would be better off, or a limited filter.

Baddogno, you are correct on sometimes there are rules and nothing you can do.  But from my experience is that if you gain enough support or have a good enough reason rules can change.

I dunno, just frustrated.  =)

There are many forums like this one. This is one of the nicer ones. The rules have not changed yet, and as far as I am concerned, they never will. There is a private chat option you can use. There are no filters there (I've been in one with some vulgar language, I left it immediately) as far as I'm concerned.

Nathanooob
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Ziggy_Zugzwang

Banter is fine amongst people who know each other, but between strangers, it's is a different matter.

DrSpudnik
Nathanooob wrote:

I got banned for talking shit, a bunch of fucking snowflakes play this game. Grow the fuck and take some grown men banter. Switching to lichess for good this website blows 

Go be a rude vulgarian some place else, please. If that's your idea of proper behavior, you will not be missed.

aglitatta

 

 

There is a gap between saying a bad word to yourself and typing it for all to see.Your thoughts are your own personal property,however it is best to keep them to yourself. If didn't mean to insult then what was your intent? BTW, never let your opponent know  how you feel about a particular move,its bad policy.    regards Aggie

Vulcan_MindTrick

I think that swearing is no big deal. They should allow players to self moderate and have a button for reporting abusive behavior via chat. In this way if someone felt offended or bullied they could just hit the "Report" button, chat would be suspended for the rest of the game and a moderator could review the complaint. 

 

I say pretty harmless things in chat like (you are kicking my a**) 

and get threats of being kicked. Kind of  over kill I think.

 

Swearing is just as valid a form of communication as anything else. 

 

DrSpudnik

Lick our eggplants? Is that what the kids are into these days?

Riptidejr
DrSpudnik wrote:

Lick our eggplants? Is that what the kids are into these days?

I believe they are sticking out their tongues to the community gardener.

Riptidejr

So rude. SO rude

 

PushyDiscovery

Swearers should get banned

 

imsighked2

Swearing is a bad habit. I try to explain this to people who swear all the time. Eventually, they will drop an "F-bomb" in a very inappropriate situation. I used to curse more as a teenager, but worked at breaking the habit because I have worked with children for years. I've also found that if you rarely curse, it has more power when you do. I learned a former client had been murdered, and dropped an "F-bomb" while talking with staff about it. I was pretty upset and they knew it, because none of them had ever heard me curse.

xxX_GODMODE_ONXxx

Is there a way to swear without getting banned? It's kinda annoying why you can't properly express your anger. 

SNUDOO

you can use the little emojis 

GM_chess_player
xxX_GODMODE_ONXxx wrote:

Is there a way to swear without getting banned? It's kinda annoying why you can't properly express your anger. 

You shouldn't curse to express your anger, just calm down.