Diamond Member


Let man's petty nations tear themselves apart

My land's only borders lie around my heart

— Anatoly Sergievsky

(from Tim Rice's "Chess")

Some quick FAQ items since a lot of people are asking me the same questions at present:


You are a lesbian!?

No, but apparently this information needs to be at the top of my FAQ now because people keep asking/assuming this.

I'm bi. I'm very happy with my girlfriend though, am not open to having another partner, and you, dear reader, are not the exception to this. If nothing else I simply do not have the time, energy, or emotional bandwidth to responsibly take on another romance. 


Can we be friends?

Nominally, sure. I tend to accept friend requests unless there's an obvious reason not to. If you're gonna chat with me, however:

  • Don't just open with "Hi", "Hey", "How are you?", etc. These will be ignored as I get many every day.
  • Don't ask if we can play a game. Try sending a challenge. This will usually not work because I usually have too many games so "accept challenges" will be set to off. But if it goes through, then yes, we can play a game. 
  • Don't send me unsolicited sexuaI content. I feel like this shouldn't have to be said, but apparently, it does.
  • If your idea of being friends consists of smalltalk, you're going to be disappointed because I'm not good at smalltalk and generally avoid such.
  • If your idea of being friends is a segue into angling after s*x and/or romance, be aware that a) you stand to be disappointed and b) if we do chat, you're gonna hear me talking about how great my girlfriend is, and for that matter, how great her other partner is, so basically the price of entry to personal conversations with me is listening to how much I love our polycule.
  • I often can/will not reply in a quick fashion here. I'll often, in fact, reply once per day when I swing by on the desktop site to do admin tasks and such. This slowness of replying will usually be nothing personal.


Where are you from / where are you located?

This strikes me as an odd question to ask someone who:

a) Set her flag as "International"
b) Put her location as "Eǔropo", not only being unspecific but also using Esperanto to avoid even favouring a national language
c) Has an anti-nationalist sentiment in big bold letters at the top of her profile

That said, it's not a secret: I am British by nationality and currently reside here too.

Can we play a game of chess?

Maybe! I'm not playing live chess at present; I'm in more of a preparatory phase (as opposed to a testing phase; I go through cycles and find it yields me better results than trying to do both at once) and will probably return to live chess maybe next year.

I am playing "daily" (ie correspondence-style) chess at present, and try to maintain 6-12 games. If I'm close to my limit I'll probably decline for now, as I am often in team matches / tournaments and try to remain aware of what's coming up so that I don't suddenly find myself with several times as many games as I intended.

Try sending a challenge. This will usually not work because I usually have too many games so "accept challenges" will be set to off. But if it goes through, then yes, we can play a game. 

If you see I'm already over that limit, please assume it's already a "no, thank you" at this time.

Do you have [preferred other social media / messaging platform]?

I have a Twitter that I use mostly for political stuff, and a Facebook that I barely use at all, but you can add me if you like. I additionally have a SL account that I spend a little time in when not too busy.

I have a Tumblr that I won't link here as it's in large part NSFW. You can ask, but I'll probably say no unless we already chat regularly and I have a more established idea of who you are.

I have WhatsApp and use it daily, but really only for a very close circle of people. 

Ultimately, if you're just trying to chat with me, it's probably best keeping it here, despite the many faults with's messaging software. I'm here on the site every day.

Do you speak [language]?

Maybe! The list changes with my current level of use / rustiness.

Languages I use happily every day: EN, EO, FR, PT

Languages I don't use every day but can switch into without much trouble: ES, NO

Languages I can easily read, but need to check vocab, grammar etc when writing: DA, DE, IT, RU, SV

Languages I can passably read but not write currently: pretty much any other Romance, Germanic, or Slavic languages

What do you do for a living?

I'm a writer, mostly. I do a lot of copywriting (ad texts, articles / advertorials, sales pages, website content, customer service templates, company FAQs, mailouts, generally anything where a company needs written words, I provide them), and sometimes do other ad hoc writing work. I do translation work sometimes (indeed, a lot of this site's FR and NO translations were my work) but I mostly don't seek that out.

How are you?

I am most of the time in excellent health, thank you. I hope you are well too. If you've been at your computer a while, remember to get up, stretch, and hydrate! Take care of yourself, because you deserve it.

What are you doing right now?

If I'm on the site, I'm probably either making chess moves in my games, discussing chess moves in vote chess games, tending to group stuff, chatting with friends, or such. I may also be studying chess using some of the site's study tools.

If I'm not on the site, could be any number of things! I'm a busy girl. But I always make some time for chess!

Is that you in your profile picture?


If you're asking because you're someone who adds as many girls as possible with amorous intentions, I should reiterate that I'm happily engaged with an amazing partner and do not have the bandwidth for any extra relationship.

I'll also mention, not that it should be important but just to avoid confusion since many of you added me long ago under a different name and appearance, that I'm trans. So yes, I also look a lot softer, more feminine, and younger than I used to. Which itself is still a work in progress!