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how to adjust to losing a game of chess?


  • 3 years ago · Quote · #1

    tigergutt

    I dont know about you guys but i have had times where the loss is so frustrating i want to throw the computer in the wall and call my opponent bad things and to be honest sometimes i did say rude things. After doing some research it seems this is normal and one of the reasons chess is called the game of a thousand sorrows. how do you adjust to accepting a loss as good as possible? I dont know about others but what seems to work for me is

    1. Play more chess against humans. when i play chess against OTB in club i dont seem to mind losing that much.

    2. Before every game i try to say to myself that this is not a war between two players. Its just a friendly guy who helps me analyse a line. If i think of the game as an analysis of a line with a helpful friend i dont really feel that i lost a game of chess.

    3. Dont play to short game. Its more annoying to lose 3 5minutgames than 1 15minutgame. Probably better for my chess also:)

    4. Not playing people to lowly rated. It doesnt feel rewarding to win and its painful to lose.

    Of course this is what helped ME. Anyone else have experience with such things?

  • 3 years ago · Quote · #3

    GhostNight

    Do like I do, have a hammer next to you, and when you lose a game, whack one of your fingers and believe me you will not think about losing the gameSurprised

  • 3 years ago · Quote · #4

    Lawdoginator

    Fifty pushups! 

  • 3 years ago · Quote · #6

    tigergutt

    haha lots of good suggestions guysLaughing  maybe youre on to something suggesting using the energy to figure what i should have done because i remember some losses from years ago while wins seems to be forgotten in 5 minuts

  • 3 years ago · Quote · #7

    TeraHammer

    tigergutt wrote:

    chess is called the game of a thousand sorrows.


    Whoa!

    Go watch a Bob Ross video painting "Happy little trees"

  • 3 years ago · Quote · #8

    losingmove

    tigergutt wrote:

     to be honest sometimes i did say rude things.


    I'm shocked!

  • 3 years ago · Quote · #9

    Lawdoginator

    Shocked I say! 

  • 3 years ago · Quote · #10

    tigergutt

    TeraHammer wrote:
    tigergutt wrote:

    chess is called the game of a thousand sorrows.


    Whoa!

    Go watch a Bob Ross video painting "Happy little trees"


    chess has a crazy history behind it. the storys says people have been executed for winning chessgames

  • 3 years ago · Quote · #11

    travis1010

    ACEChess wrote:

    A money jar to donate to a cause you don't believe in is motivating... You have to put a dollar in every time you lose ...


    Or just use the money for chess lessons/books/software/membership to websites.

  • 3 years ago · Quote · #12

    Bodhiwan

    GhostNight wrote:

    Do like I do, have a hammer next to you, and when you lose a game, whack one of your fingers and believe me you will not think about losing the game


    And you won't dare to lose another one! Laughing

  • 3 years ago · Quote · #13

    tigergutt

    travis1010 wrote:
    ACEChess wrote:

    A money jar to donate to a cause you don't believe in is motivating... You have to put a dollar in every time you lose ...


    Or just use the money for chess lessons/books/software/membership to websites.


    but then i would WANT to loseTongue out

  • 3 years ago · Quote · #14

    travis1010

    tigergutt wrote:
    travis1010 wrote:
    ACEChess wrote:

    A money jar to donate to a cause you don't believe in is motivating... You have to put a dollar in every time you lose ...


    Or just use the money for chess lessons/books/software/membership to websites.


    but then i would WANT to lose


    Well, that solves your problem then, doesn't it? :D

  • 3 years ago · Quote · #15

    tigergutt

    haha i guess. i think i would started missing winning from time to time

  • 3 years ago · Quote · #16

    UnratedGamesOnly

    Online? Who cares

    OTB Tournaments?  I spent alot of years suffering and agonizing over losses.  Id lose one game and it ruined the whole tournament for me.  A loss that caused me to drop out of the money would leave me so angry id just quit, and leave the tournment.  About a year ago, for whatever the reason i learned to accept the fact that im going to lose.  Now i enjoy tournaments so much more, losses dont bother me like they used to. 

  • 3 years ago · Quote · #17

    beardogjones

    Losing sucks no matter how short the time control!

  • 3 years ago · Quote · #18

    UnratedGamesOnly

    ciljettu wrote:
    UnratedGamesOnly wrote:

    Online? Who cares

    OTB Tournaments?  I spent alot of years suffering and agonizing over losses.  Id lose one game and it ruined the whole tournament for me.  A loss that caused me to drop out of the money would leave me so angry id just quit, and leave the tournment.  About a year ago, for whatever the reason i learned to accept the fact that im going to lose.  Now i enjoy tournaments so much more, losses dont bother me like they used to. 


     Wish I was like you .... losing otb to a lower rated player is one of the worst feelings I have experienced.... even losing online is bad enough.


     The online games dont mean anything.  Do you really think its worth getting all worked up over an online rating?  The one thing i have discovered here playing unrated games only, is the LARGE number of sandbaggers. 

  • 3 years ago · Quote · #19

    PLAVIN81

    DONT GIVE UP

  • 3 years ago · Quote · #20

    PLAVIN81

    [DONT GIVE UP


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