-disable the minute something comes off as strange/weird or rude.
- block if he tries to communicate with you (message) even after.
- disable as a general rule and you'll never have this problem.
Not sure if this is true for everybody, but I've rarely seen value in chatting during the game unless it's a friend/somebody I know. Being a jerk is easy when they're online, so why bother opening the door for them?
If you're confident that you can engage in witty banter, than you really must know that he's prolly been a d-bag a whole lot longer than you and THEREFORE had tons of practice.
I am new to this site, although I've played at various chess websites in the distant past.
I prefer not to disable chat during Live chess because I am a friendly person by nature and I prefer to say "hello" and "gg", etc. to my opponents. I think that chess is not much of a social activity as it is and I like to be friendly with others when I play.
I recently played a Live rated game on this site. My opponent and I initially exchanged greetings. A little ways into the game I took some time (probably about a minute) to make a move. My opponent jumped in on the chat:
"pls move"
"you're taking too long"
"if you don't move I'm going to leave"
Keep in mind this is a STANDARD 20 10 game - and I just took 60 seconds to make a move! Rather annoyed, I ended up making a dubious move and then told him that he was being rude and that I could use as much of my time allotment during my turn as I wished and that he shouldn't have agreed to the time limit in question if he was in a hurry. I told him he should have just played a blitz or bullet game if he was rushed and that he was distracting my thought process and only delaying my move further.
He then somewhat apologized:
"sorry if you think I was being rude"
So then the game continues and a handful of moves later I am taking a minute or so on a move and he chimes in again:
"it is easy, that was a mistake"
"pls move"
"can you do me a favor"
"you are taking too long"
I proceeded to make my move which was a total blunder that hung a piece! Once he snagged the piece, I was so infuriated with him for being such an ass AND at myself for allowing such a douche to get the best of me, that I just walked away from the game and let it time out.
Now, I know that intentionally letting a game time out is bad etiquette and it is honestly something I have never done before. But I am human after all and I was so enraged that I just walked away from my computer and I don't feel bad about it in this situation.
To summarize:
Q. Did I deserve to lose the game?
A. Absolutely! There is no luck in chess and no excuses to be made. I let my opponent get the best of me with his innapropriate banter! I had a couple options at my disposal, to focus better at just ignoring his chatter OR my best option: to simply disable the chat for the game once he started harrassing me. I chose not to do this out of an attempt to not be anti-social and I burned myself in the process.
Now I will certainly never play another game of chess with this guy, but I would like to learn something from this experience and thus I pose this question:
- What is your approach to the chat box with internet chess?
1) Always keep chat disabled and allow for no social interaction.
2) Allow chat but instantly disable it as soon as opponent says something inappropriate.
3) Never disable chat and just ignore rude behavior or laugh at opponent when he's out of line and inform him that he's being a douche.