Rain Ortega (dj tega)
By request, lessons from dance over 8 yrs I wish I had learned earlier. (Feel free to add your own!)
-Leading and following is not gender-specific-Every single impulse you receive as a follow is a request, not a demand-You can stop a dance at any time.-You can say no to a dance for any reason, and you don't have to provide one.-Never sacrifice your own safety in the name of "making your partner happy".-If you are a beginner lead, don't get caught up in learning every crazy move you can. Get your foundations down, and the intricate stuff will be a lot easier.-Every intricate movement comes from it first looking huge, shitty, and clumsy. -The most expensive shoes aren't necessarily the RIGHT shoes for you.-You don't have to compete even if everyone else is. -Shhhhhhhhhhh. Stop guessing, start listening.-Every lesson, every mistake, every "embarrassment" is investment into later skill and refinement-Pay attention in class, ask questions.-The best teachers will provide equal curriculum for both roles, along with safety and comfort notes.-Intention through every finger and toe. Mean every single movement.-If it feels like shit in your body, you *MAY* be doing it wrong OR you may need to make adjustments to accommodate your own flexibility or range of motion. Ask!-You can't treat every partner as if they are going to be the same. We have different skills, flexibility, mood, ROM, articulation, and boundaries. Be prepared to adapt, and do so gladly.-Don't forget the social part of social dance. Don't get caught up in hierarchies or self-comparison if you can help it.