Improving patience.

I often like to play longer time formats such as 15 | 10 or 30 Minute Games however, I always find myself being too impulsive and impatient. I was wondering if there are anyways to stop this and help.

There is a big difference between saying you like to play longer time controls and you choose to play longer time controls. I've taken a quick glance at your games and you handle 30 minute games the way you should handle a blitz or bullet game. Remember that your time is a resource that is available to you in games. Not using what is provided to you is unwise.

The first thing that you need to do is choose the right time control and adjust how you play so that you can be successful.

If you are going to choose to continue to play 30 minute games, you need to change your thinking process in how you choose your moves.

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I feel like I spend more time when I think out loud.

We are living in a perpetual doomscroll world, so we need to remove distractions. Here is what I do, playing on a laptop, to maintain my patience:

1. Control your energy level, get rest, stay hydrated:
   • Make sure to get whatever rest you can the night before
   • Make sure to eat a little something before the game (not a huge meal!)
   • Have a cup of tea, mug of coffee, or glass of water
2. Control your audio, hide notifications:
   • Turn notifications to vibrate only.
   • Use a noise canceling headset if you can.
   • Play in a room with a door, shut, if you can.
   • Find and play a long video of rain sound. I like the kind where it's just rain, no thunder. You may like a different nature sound. Nature sounds do not have human voice (like singing) which can remind you of all sorts of things.
   • Then turn the phone screen down on your desk or table to avoid seeing any notifications or screen activity. All the notifications will be there at the end of your game(s).
3. Control your visual, hide notifications:
   • Hide laptop notifications
   • Maximize the browser screen
   • In play mode, go into "focus mode" when playing
4. Control your appetite, energy level:
   • During a long game you may want to eat a little something for a break and to keep your appetite from being a distraction
5. Control your focus, gently dismiss other thoughts:
   • To the best of your ability, put other life tasks aside
   • If you need to do a critical life task, please stop your chess and do it; otherwise you are there to play
   • Now that we got that out of the way...
   • As distracting thoughts come to mind, as they will, gently push them aside. Don't feel guilty, everyone has distracting thoughts.
   • Keep looking at the board. Who is better and why? What will you do about it? Think in very short plans. Loop. Repeat.
   • Do not play faster than your time control. Use all your time, and use it for constructive purposes. Who is better and why? What will you do about it? Think in very short plans. Loop. Repeat.
   • Do not fidget with the mouse! 
   • If you get anxious in a rapid or longer game waiting for your opponent, imagine the chess position without any pieces, just pawns. Which pawn structure is better, and why? Middlegame? Endgame?
   • The more you can eat, drink, and live your chess position, the better your outcome.

Hope this helps someone.

Take care

It feels like you don't know what to think about.
I have a checklist on paper that guides my thinking process, in the form of questions. The list is too long to use for every move in a live game, but I use it in daily games, & that way I practice my thinking process.

Questions are about (among other things):
- Checks, captures, threats (yours or your opponent's)
- Pins (yours or...) -> this is on the list because I often don't see them
- What does your opponent's move do, what else does it do? (Double attack)
- Are there any pieces hanging? (yours or...)
- Tactics: Fork, skewer, discovered, double...
- Strategy: weak squares, outposts, knight vs bishop...
- What is my plan?

- Blunder Check before you make your actual move (all the above questions again, but now from the perspective of your opponent, after you have made your next move).

Make your own list. When you study, add questions to it. When analyzing your game, you can also add questions about your weaknesses (like me, missing pins).
Then start using it in daily games. You'll see, you'll have more than enough to think about, and not enough time.