To all of those who will read this post, is it too serious?
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Nah, I don't think so.
Tell me, who among of us doesn't want true love?
Who doesn't dream personally of finding the person who will love and accept them for who they are and will be with them through everything.
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Even a rock breaks.
It is not really sex, money, fame, possessions or intelligence that would satisfy us completely.
Yes, we could have all of these but what would it mean if we are empty inside?
Only love can fill it.
And true love, first of all is born inside each and every one of us, and comes from God.
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Many of us are very interested in dating and having relationships. While most of us here are still young (teenagers), here are some things that I stand on about love.
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1) What are you looking for? A like or a love?
We might have had gone under some language disorder lately. There is a HUGE difference between the word like and love.
Like means: to be suitable or agreeable to, or to feel attraction toward or take pleasure in.
While love means: an inexplainable feeling of strong attachment, care and affection, or unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another.
Like mainly goes with the situations given. I like you, I like apples, I like cars... But these things are subjective to sudden changes when the situation is no longer favorable or benefiting for the self. While love on the other hand, is an unselfish devotion that longs for the good of others and not of the self.
Do you like him because he's good at baseball? Do you like her because she looks fantastic? What if he's not as good as he was before? What if she suddenly grew so many pimples? Or if you learned that he has this bad breath and a stinking foot? Do you still want to be with her? or you'd all of the sudden would rather be dead than to be caught alive with her in public?
Love, true love, accepts not only the good side, but more, the bad side. It believes even when there seems to be no hope.
2) What is your goal?
Have anyone of us ever asked: What is the purpose why are we dating?
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I believe, we date and why dates are actually invented was for us to be able to get to know someone personally.
Now, this is not on the romantic setting most of us think.
Do you know that going on dates with all those arranged things won't actually get you to know the person better?
To know who that someone really is not under good circumstances but under the nasty and pressuring times.
You think he's great because he's this kind around everyone. We'll try him when the situation offers no reason to be kind, that's when true character shows up.
Many actually go on dates, or enter relationships because WE JUST WANT TO, WE JUST WANT TO HAVE FUN.
Hmm?
Mind you guys, love is not a game.
We date to know or find someone who is compatible with us, so as to find the right husband/ wife for us in the future.
Too serious?
I don't think so.
We either have this in mind or our search is futile, worthless, meaningless.
3) What is your intention?
Boys: Do we say we like/ love a girl because we just want to be with them beacuse they are beautiful, kind, intelligent or worse, we just want their bodies? Are girls just "something" to use so that we can brag to our friends about our girl?
Girls: Do we go out with a guy because they are rich, handsome, hot, popular, or we just want to have some sense of security, or like was said above, we just want their bodies?
Just wanting someone to be with?
Remember, there is a HUGE difference between like, lust and love.
If we are not up to loving that other person with the truth and good intentions, we might just better go away.
4) What do you have?
Huh?
You have your self.
Relationships are bonds between people.
Now, many, sadly, enter relationships because they feel insufficient about themselves. They are looking for "that someone who can fill them up".
Mind you guys, before you can give love or care to another, you first have to have it in you for how can you give away something you don't even have?
Respect yourself first. Then you could respect others and expect to be respected.
Love your self then you could love other people.
Instead of spending all of your efforts and time on someone who you don't know whether he/ she is serious with you or will be ending up with you in the future, why not spend it nurturing your talents and doing good in your school.
5) What is your age?
There is a time for everything.
Do you think that at 16, you can handle a relationship well? Or it would cause you more damage than good at your age?
Guys, there is a time for everything. For now, why don't we enjoy our lives the way it is.
Here's an irony: You can't even wash your own underware, how could you manage being responsible for another person?
God makes everything beautiful in His time.
Maybe you don't believe in God but look around you. Butterflies can't be rushed in coming out from their cocoons. Fruits take time to ripen. Picking up a flower before its buds had blossomed would only destroy it and make it useless.
6) What is your standard?
I mean, if we are really into finding someone we would love truly, we ought to have some standards.
Not the kind of standards such as I want him to be rich, a super model and a very intelligent one. But things that really mean so much to us as a person with heart and soul.
Taking from my self:
I have this three very little standards about the guy that I would love:
1) He should be a man who truly loves God and lives for the Lord. A born-again Christian.
2) He has to be ATLEAST 3 years older than me.
3) He must be a chess player.
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Of course, if we want a lasting relationship, we should take note about the beliefs and the personality. What would you do with a relationship where there is no common ground, where there is no agreement?
7) What would you do?
So now, what's next?
I know, with all these trends around us where waiting seems lame and true love seems just a legend, it is really hard.
But if we are really up to doing what is right and beneficiable, not only for us but for the other person, and the people around us, we should take time to check our motives and our status.
Loving and finding someone who loves us truly is one of the most beautiful things in the world.
Either we want this or our chase is meaningless and empty.
We should pray that we would find what is really missing in our lives, and that God would fill it up.
1 Corinthians 13:4-13
"Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never ends."
God bless us all. ^_^
I hope this helps.