Support, Venting, and Safe Space Forum

There’s a setting u can turn on to block chat

u can turn it back off when ur on chess social

idk wht it is but there should be a setting

Or just block ur opponent at the start of the game

I think you guys are missing the point, it's not that they can't do anything to block or report those players, it's about it shouldn't happen in the first place.

I think blocking opponents immediately before they've done anything wrong is throwing the baby out with the bathwater. There are also of people who chat appropriately.

Although is there a setting to block out of game messages from non-friends or people who aren't from certain Clubs? I think having granular control would be nice because there are some clubs with people that I welcome messages from and messages from those club members are usually strictly chess related.

In Settings and Social.

What?

mood hasnt changed bud

isnt this "safe space" and "venting" forum literally made to let out ur negativity

like your bad tilt

or loss of rating in a short amount of time

its called a Support, Venting, and Safe Space forum for a reason.

 

 

 

vent¹

/vent/

Can someone suggest a huge club on chess.com which allows making forums for everyone?

@Esliwga Ignore toxic people. They will be everywhere trying to seek validation for their behavior.

witty aliens club

also allows u to post forums abt reporting a certain player, witty alien and his mods allow it

I’m never joining a classical chess tournament ever again.

Long story short, initially the tournament I was in had two groups, 1700+ and U1700, but then it was changed to 1600+ and U1600, which means I’m suddenly in the pro group.

I literally can’t play chess, I feel like a moron playing against these people, most are kids 10 years or younger, and the more I play the more I feel like shit. I’m currently scoring 1/5, one more game left, I’m just planning to throw, I don’t even care anymore. The only reason I’m here is because I spent 15$ on the tournament, not gonna let that go to waste…

I won the first game, lost the second because of a literal slip (I mistook the king for the queen and moved my king up), then the third game I lost because of a rook sac. At this point I just broke. The fourth game, I stopped thinking completely, got destroyed, and was near crying. Blundered from the eighth move because I don’t know anything about theory. Then I came back home and played some rapid matches, and blundered a winning endgame against a 2300, then proceeded to blunder my queen on low time. And then today came, I just finished my fifth game, lost because I blundered back-rank mate, and lack of opening theory.

I hate chess, chess is so cruel. I’m not good at this game at all. People keep sugar-coating me and seeing that 2000 rated automatically means good, when in reality, my openings are messed up, I got no positional understanding whatsoever, my endgames are abhorrent, and the only thing I’m known for is playing some unorthodox openings.

And it kinda hurts knowing I’ll never be good at chess. I can’t memorize hundreds of lines of theory like others. I can’t play blindfold chess. I can’t play other openings because I have no theory. I can’t think for a long time at all, because my calculations end abruptly. I’ve never even had proper coaching like others.

That’s probably why I should stop taking this game seriously.

Well...I don't think it's a problem to memorize hundreds of lines of theory...Like sometimes you gotta memorize the key idea, or just like the common lines, or just find a setup opening might help you and I think you're not bad tho, getting 2100 with no proper coach while I study with a CM to get 2100 weekly, although it's just playing chess with other students in the class and solving puzzles (and my friend went from 800 to better than me in 3 weeks just because he studied with an FM, lol) and I couldn't play blindfold chess either, whenever I gotta calculate I just draw imaginary arrows in my head (over the board and sometimes in online games). Btw I think you should watch a video by The Chess Nerd, I've seen a video from him about how to deal with the opponent in the opening with 4 "cards" (It's like 4 strategies), I remembered...uhhh
1. Play an opening that both of y'all don't know anything about the theory
2. Play normally at the start and suddenly play a strange move (Ofc it gotta be playable)
3. Play an opening that focus on ur opponent's weaknesses (For example, if ur opponent is bad at the end game, you can think of playing an opening that could trade queens straight away from the opening, but I think you will not have time to see your opponent's latest matches just to seek for their weaknesses)
4. (I forgot what it is, lol)
And to your calculating problem, I think it's because of your mentality, just play chill chess like: "Oh yeh, just a lost, nothing so special, just be a chill guy and move on to the next game" instead of being Magnesium Calcium and slams the table 😭😭😭😭 or become a "crybaby"
I know it's not easy to fix those problems but I think that in the future, you might be able to fix them : D

Every single week of mine is a pack of horror. Many classmates of mine picked on me for being overprotective student in my section. The fact that I can't do anything but cry silently. My arms and legs were stiff whenever they just stared me and laughed. Whenever something was wrong, they mostly use me as the culprit of every single incident in my school. Those incidents tried to take a grip on my academics and mental. For weeks, I felt hopelessness. No one at least goes near to me, cheering and protecting me. No one. NO ONE even tried making me friends. Never for me, to make interactions. Never for me, to get happy memories in my high school. Never for me, to make smiles. I was looking at them, thinking that I should kick the bucket in disgrace. I tried, but something keeps resisting me from doing it. And I don't know how and why is it keeping me from doing this. This kept me thinking in days. I was thinking to myself that I should transfer, but I can't. 3 years of hardwork in that school wasted? Never. That would my parents get disappointed. I mostly go online, to make friends, I enjoyed chatting with them, rather than rotting in those memories. It's making me off balanced in trying to focus in this single strand of string that is attached to my goals and dreams.

This is really broke my heart

I’m proud of you for holding on, even when you feel like giving up. That small part of you that keeps fighting means you still have hope, and that is powerful. You are not alone, even if it feels like it. If you ever need someone to talk to, I’m here for you really Sometimes just having someone listen makes the pain a little lighter. Stay strong, little brother. You are stronger than you think

The struggles you mentioned are indeed fairly normal. Pretty much every chess player has dealt with chess tilt. Also, many chess players can relate to the struggle of trying to improve and putting lots of effort, yet not getting much in terms of results.

For mitigating chess tilt, I have a few personal rules for myself that may help. Often, tilt comes from frustration that is caused by attempting to play under suboptimal circumstances. Such circumstances are not conducive to good chess performance, and can thus make you more prone to making mistakes and losing games, which in turn can make the experience of playing chess (especially when you lose) extra frustrating and annoying, which then may lead to chess tilt. For me, I avoid playing under certain conditions to minimize this problem. There are physical factors like fatigue or hunger that can be distracting, so I don't play when I feel tired or hungry. There are some psychological factors that can be distracting as well, such as poor mood or stress. So, I avoid playing when I am already not in a good mood, or if I'm feeling stressed about something. I still get tilted from time to time, but I found that these things help reduce the amount of tilt I suffer.

As for the struggle of putting lots of effort, but not getting much for results, the reason for this can often be because your efforts are misdirected or misguided. You might be "barking up the wrong tree" so to speak, and you efforts might be more fruitful if you change your approach. In your case, I cannot give as much specific advice since I don't know exactly what you do in your improvement attempts, so I can only give vague advice. But for many players, practicing puzzles, playing longer time controls, reviewing games, and studying chess books can be and often are the most helpful things.

Best of luck to your chess improvement. It's going to be okay.

Oof, I feel you. I generally get enjoyment out of playing chess (though it does get frustrating at times). However, I've been stuck at 1700 rapid since 2022. Whenever I try to study, like watching an instructional video or reading a chess book, it's like my brain just refuses to pay attention or retain the information for some reason, so it ends up feeling pointless to try. But then since I'm not studying, my improvement progress naturally screeches to a halt. In general, it feel like pulling teeth to force myself to study even though I know I should (whether it's for chess or for school (I'm currently a college student)).

I feel homesick... and I miss chess like I used to play.

Here, let me elaborate. For the longest time my family has always desired to immigrate to another country (like my mom's brother and my parents' friends, who've all immigrated successfully). I was against this, but I also know I was a bit powerless. So last week, we have officially flew from Vietnam to New Zealand, in search of a new, better life.

Of course, New Zealand is in the middle of nowhere (well, it is really isolated), the seasons completely changed from summer to winter, so when I came there, it was crippling cold, and I was sick immediately. That's fine for me.

But as the days keep going I start having existential crises a lot more, wondering what am I doing with my life. Ever since I'm at a new country, I've been homesick nonstop, but also, I miss my chess mates, whom I've played chess for over two years at this point. It is way too much of a drastic change.

Of course, with all negative things in life, I try to fill that void with chess. I got to 2200 rapid. I went outside, breathed the freshest air I haven't been able to breathe in a while. I managed to make superior progress to my opening studies. And then, literally just a week after I came to New Zealand, I joined a classical chess tournament (yes, I know, a bit contradictory to my last vent, but ehh it's my first time playing 90+30).

But the journey to the chess tournament was... tough, I did not think this through. The streets were cold. I went through two buses, and got lost twice. As it was approaching dark, I start to become a lot more anxious. But I eventually came, I met the chief arbiter (side note, one of the friendliest person I've met in a while), and I played the match. I lost. Not that big of a deal.

Then upon leaving the tournament, it was already dark. 10km away from the place I currently temporarily stay at, I would have had to navigate through the dark streets to get to the few buses that run past 9pm, and they're also usually very slow. Thankfully my dad called me up and told me he will be coming to pick me up, he doesn't trust me navigating my way home there at all.

That night, it was hard to fall into sleep. I start to have the biggest existential crisis I've had ever since moving. I miss everything. I miss the casual chess scene over there, where I would pull up with friends, play an entire tournament in one day, and go home. Now I have to commit in a weekly tournament, and I'm afraid this might soon become a burden to my parents (to which my dad has openly admit this could be difficult) to keep coming to pick me up every week.

Because well, I started playing chess as to get friends. And I got them, I got friends. But when I moved to a new country, I don't have such friends anymore, I have to get new ones, and well, if I can't use chess as a medium to socialize, then what else do I do with it anymore?

Hello guys, I just wanna say, I know it's hard for all of you for different reasons to navigate this life. But there are times when you learn new stuff about it and yourself. Keep on growing and learning and hopefully you'll do just fine guys. Wish you all, all the best.

Life is too cruel lol. But for some reason I, or somebody, chose to load me into a singleplayer game in this universe for the next 75 years, so I'll have to navigate it and survive it somehow.