Nobody says "Good Game" anymore!

LOL. jengaias.

I suppose breakfast is a little much.  but I like to think I wouldn't mind meeting most of you-- on a day when your in a good mood...

I def agree that if you going to be sociable you might as well as be sincere. 

but I don't know where some of you guys live- here in America.  people often say quiet polite things like "how are you" and "nice to meet you" without expectations of a big discussion of how "you feel" or whether its REALLY nice to meet you....

its in that light that I think people say "gg".  more of small talk and being nice.  rather than having much meaning on whether the game was really good.

IOW.  in OTB chess I would say "gg" if it was a blunderfest and maybe even if I won. especially if my opponent wasn't visibly upset or doing the "magnus Carlsen"- running away from the discussion afterwards

I like your "handshake" emoji idea! Also, you are right about some people moving on so fast that they would never even see it,  I hereby dub you Patzer the Great!

I agree for the emoji. I'll probably adopt it. But I like "thanks for the game" also. It's true that in blitz is more difficult, but I never play less than 30 min games.

>Is it just me<

It's just you. You must not play good games. 

its NOT an easy topic.  I Agree.  this is exactly what I meant when I said courtesy wasn't "common"

on the other hand.  random jerks aside. perhaps its better to assume (if you will) that your opponent is 'well dressed' and 'sociable'

after all you and I are posting here.  I had my image taken and used while someone referenced obscene things.

courtesy and engagement makes you a target for the trolls.  yes.  but would chess.com be a nice play without courtesy and engagement?

NO. imho.

the rewards are being friendly are greater than the risks of being personally mocked, or insulted.    whats true on the forums in true in a game as well.  and particularly in the longer time controls.

It DOES make sense to be polite.  cuz if its all just a big troll joke--  there would be no point to the forums Or game chat.

I don't mind joking.

there are a lot of guys here that Joke and call it "trolling"

some of you are even good at it..... others not so much

are you trying to find the limits  of what can be said?

this is easy to do.  its called the TOS.

there's nothing in their about sincerity.

mmm. no not really.

carlsen is busy. Naka only plays bullet here.

I'm (and most others) are pretty weak and have little involvement in the big world of chess players.

so... have a nice day yourself!

Lou please consider blocking this dude (ohmydoomers).

what good will it be to have him vandalizing the thread?

Isn't there a hand shake trophy you can give?

"lets be friends"

second page.  I don't find it easy to give trophies.  and imagine if everyone gave one with every game...

that lesson the compliment of a trophy I think

Probably. I wasn't advocating going overboard, just wishing more players in live chess showed a little more common courtesy.  I think "Well Played" or "Thanks for the Game" are all good alternatives to "Good Game". It's not easy but if you can will yourself to say it even after a loss, you are a better person for it.

While I think shaking hands after a tournament game is only right, handshake via an emoticon feels quite absurd to me. I usually say "gg" or "well played" (if applicable ), but I'm not mad when the other player doesn't do the same thing. 

edit: a real-life tournament game*

This issue is brought over, and over, and over.  And again...all anyone needs to understand is that the only place "good luck"..."good game"...etc. is considered rude/abusive/taunting/teasing/etc. is online.  Go to any OTB tournament, club event, and you will see players shaking hands, wishing each other good luck, good game, going over the game after its over.  And again...what is the one common denominator?  

Online annonymity.  The safety of hiding behind a monitor allows some to act like they wouldnt in person.

and another thing to say

is that people are not agonizing over what to say to an opponent in an OTB tournament.  Just about everyone does the pleasantries of a handshake and perhaps a courteous post-mortem after the game.

its even nicer in an friendly club.

SO happy to have found one and to have made it part of my life.  Chess just got twice as nice!  even though it is a long drive.

Good to hear you found a club to attend.  A few of us meet for dinner each week before attending chess club.  It makes for a nice way to spend a day with good friends, good people, and a good game.

This is why all the nonsense of normal human behavior being ridiculed as rude/taunting/abuse/etc. just illustrates the e-thug mentality.

I too play every week in a chess club. Perhaps that is why I notice the rudeness online more so than others who never do play an OTB game? It could very well be.

i do..........