if someone can shed some light? challenge me to a 10 or 30 min and just help me?
Have you tried the Chess Mentor here? I have found it very useful
The first thing would be to stop playing bullet, and blitz, and play longer time controls.
Total Games: 1,291 Blitz
Total Games: 153 Bullet
Total Games: 5 Regular
Thats what I'm looking for, the game has grown more than an obsession. Will try longer games.