I don't care what your "real rating" or whatever is. Either way, asking someone to play Ruy by messing around with it without understanding it first is dangerous advice. If you're higher rated like you implied (I doubt it), you should have known better.
It's not dangerous advice. It's so silly when some people say this. "Don't play the Sicilian. That's DANGEROUS. Don't play the Ruy Lopez. That's DANGEROUS. You don't know what you're dealing with!"
Like what? You could lose a game? That's all a normal part of learning. You play to learn and understand better.
Playing this kind of chess "with the bumper pads on" isn't 'safe' or helpful. People need to be exposed to new ideas and concepts in order to get better.
See you get it. Always love it when people treat chess openings like as if they are Rocket science.
Keep your doubts to yourself, big man.
but then i chose a chess book for my birthday present and i found vienna and queen's