How do I take advantage of queen coming out early?

I'm still relatively new to chess, and I know you're not supposed to open with queen early, but I always have a really difficult time taking advantage of the early queen and I end up being down material and demoralized. Does anyone have tips or example games of how to stop the queen attack?

The basics of each phase of the game

Opening:

Follow the Opening principles:

1.      Control the center squares – d4-e4-d5-e5

2.      Develop your minor pieces toward the center – piece activity is the key

Ø  Complete your development before moving a piece twice or starting an attack.

Ø  Move pieces not pawns.

3.      Castle

4.      Connect your rooks

Ø    By move 12, you should have connected your Rooks, or be about to do so.

Middle game:

When you have completed the Opening Principles, you are now at the middle game.  Now you need to formulate a middle game plan.  The middle game is a very complicated part of a chess game.  A simple way to develop a middle game plan is to perform the following steps.

1.      Scan your opponents 5^th, and 6^th ranks (3^rd, and 4^th if your black)

2.      Look for weak pawns, and or weak squares.

Ø  Weak pawns and squares are Pawns, and squares that cannot be defended by another Pawn.

Ø  Knights are excellent pieces on weak squares.

Ø  When deciding on weak squares, and weak Pawns to attack, the closer to the center the better

End game:

Start with the basics:

1.      Learn basic mates – KQ vs. K, KR vs. K, KRR vs. K

2.      Learn Opposition, and Key Squares

3.      Learn basic King and Pawn endings

Pre Move Checklist

1. Make sure all your pieces are safe.

2. Look for forcing moves: Checks, captures, threats. You want to look at ALL forcing moves (even the bad ones) this will force you look at, and see the entire board.

3. If there are no forcing moves, you then want to remove any of your opponent’s pieces from your side of the board.

4. If your opponent doesn’t have any of his pieces on your side of the board, then you want to improve the position of your least active piece.

5. After each move by your opponent, ask yourself: "What is my opponent trying to do?"

Thank you for your commentary GodsPawn, I'll definitely keep this in mind next time someone pulls their queen out early! 

Youre very welcome.  

Nice bit of instruction GP!

Thank You!

A classic example, in my opinion:

A pretty good one:

1 e4 e5 2 Qh5 Nc6 3 Bc4 g6 4 Qf3 Nf6 5 g4 Nd4 6 Qd1 d5 7 exd5 Bxg4 8 Ne2 Nf3+ 9 Kf1 Bh3#

(A game from Discovering Chess Openings by GM John Emms.)

https://web.archive.org/web/20140627114655/http://www.chesscafe.com/text/hansen91.pdf

Carefully look at the new squares their last move attacks.

If it attacks something, find MULTIPLE ways to defend it.

Choose the defensive move that satisfies the most opening principals such as fast development, control the center, don't move lots of pawns, and castle to safety.

Punishment doesn't usually come until the middlegame, and it comes due to your having completed development better and/or faster than they have. You don't necessarily need to chase their queen.  Just follow opening principals and don't lose material.

Good opening puzzle.

Flirt with the queen .