Even better is:
Queens Raid: How to perform it and stop it.
8. ..d4 just loses the pawn.
Instead of 7. ..Re8 black should get their bishop into play, d6 works. White has d4 control problems because his queen isn't on d1, and has to babysit the square or black will have the powerful Nd4. Meanwhile black has no real weaknesses and is free to gain space on the queenside, slowly squeezing white. Not pleasant.

LongIslandMark wrote:
For what it's worth, here is how I messed up defending against it. Usually I do pretty well, but not this time:

@blasterdragon - thanks for the analysis and better moves.
5...d5 was probably too early.
10... O-O-O?? I'm guessing you gave the question marks not because castling in and of itself was a bad idea, but because it set up the exchange where I lost a minor.
no problem yes its not bad move just in this case since it loses to that tactic your opponet played
btw its called the Parham attack and its not that great there are lots of ways to stop it