If I like my opponent maybe because a friendly conversation I give a trophy, even when he/she was winning.
How do you behave after a game?

This thread isn't really to criticize or correct anyone so let's not. It's to laugh or learn how others among us often deal with the grief of losing a game. Yes, bigpoison...it may be a matter of toughening up but I guess different people react differently. Like Lisa, I need a few moments to clear my head...if my biochemistry could be checked after the loss of a game, I'm sure it would be a stark unfavorable difference.
I used to be more sensitive though, I admit. I once had problems allowing other people to see my game and behaved as if the encounter over the board was such an intimate peek into my mind that it almost rivalled watching someone in their bedroom. Now I've chilled out. When I post games, I no longer have an emotional distress.
flags...die a slow death please. actual conversation doesn't suit you. Or perhaps you're not suited to it.

flags...die a slow death please.
Definitely one of the top feuds ever.
On a lighter note, Top Horns:
5. Air
4. Honk
3. Klaxxon
2. Beep Beep
1. Aooooga

flags...die a slow death please. actual conversation doesn't suit you. Or perhaps you're not suited to it.
as i am relatively healthy, and don't see death on the horizon, i am doing just this. thanks for the kind words. it's nice to see that you really are a "nice girl" and not that you're just claiming to be.
rattle rattle.

When I lose I get angry at myself, but I don't go crazy. If my opponent really deserved the win, I'll grant them a trophy. When I win, I try to be humble and give tips and encouragement to my opponent. I always say "good game," after any game.

Surely most of us know when we've made a 'losing' move - but then we play on in the hope that oppo will be careless too - most the games I lose, I know Ihas blown it well before I eventually resigns or allows the checkmate (I likes to do that - specially if oppo has bin particularly artistic)
u play any damn game that the world ever come up with an' u gonna lose some of the time , no matter how good u wud like to pretend u are - an' it don't matter one jot

flags...die a slow death please. actual conversation doesn't suit you. Or perhaps you're not suited to it.
as i am relatively healthy, and don't see death on the horizon, i am doing just this. thanks for the kind words. it's nice to see that you really are a "nice girl" and not that you're just claiming to be.
I did say please.
Careful Afaf, he's a moderator now (surely a belated April Fool's prank?)
Are you serious?

flags...die a slow death please. actual conversation doesn't suit you. Or perhaps you're not suited to it.
as i am relatively healthy, and don't see death on the horizon, i am doing just this. thanks for the kind words. it's nice to see that you really are a "nice girl" and not that you're just claiming to be.
I did say please.
Careful Afaf, he's a moderator now (surely a belated April Fool's prank?)
Are you serious?
yeah, can you believe it?

How are you usually feeling after a game and do you express any of it to the opponent? Any patterns in your behavior?
If I'm having a bad day and my opponent is exceptionally patzerish, I might make a snide remark. Losing doesn't bother me, I take it as a learning experience.

When playing online, i often say "good game" or "well played" if i lost and deserved it. Over the board i try my best being a sportsman wether i win or lose. I offer my hand and say "takk for kampen", meaning "thanks for the struggle".
I make an effort to never excuse my playing if it was poor. If my opponent won, it is because he was the better player.
I thoroughly despise losing though, with every fiber of my body.
I think Prawny posted this in the wrong forum thread:
Davy Jones' Locker International
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Character deficiency appears to be the obvious answer, some players haven't got it into their thick heads that losing is an integral part of chess, for everyone. Players of the past had to deal with losing when the game was conducted face-to-face but today's internet player need never acknowledge this fact.
That Prawny is a perspicacious dude!
If that is directed at me...
I'm in a bad mood. I have no desire to offend, so if I do let it pass. You live your life your way, I'll live mine my way.
As for what you bolded--no shit. Losing helps you learn. Doesn't mean I should dance a jig with the friggin Lucky Charms guy when it happens.
As for your condescension.....
It wasn't directed at you LisaV. Frankly, the first post of mine that you responded to wasn't directed at you personally, though I did quote you. You simply summed up many of the previous posters feelings nicely. Notice the "you all" in my first post?
As to Prawn's post: I found it germane to the conversation.
What did I post that was condescending?