Most privacy setting here are all-or-none ['only my freinds' or 'all']. Not really satisfactory.
I'll speak for myself:
This one-click 'friend' is something i do not believe in; and the few 'official freinds' I have here are so for some specific reason in each case. Some real-life personal freinds here are not 'official freinds'!
I used to keep notes&messages open for all but I found myself deluged by a combination of:
1. vapid notes&messages
2. harrassment notes&messages
So, for some time now, Ive blocked those except from 'freinds'..
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now i'd like to receive messages/notes from members of a certain group - but if i do that I open the doors to the hordes again, and going by past experience-
by the time i reach the messages i want, I will be too upset and annoyed and tired out by all the spam i'll have had to cross..
[digression: Thats why I DO NOT - since 2004 - as a rule watch TV - cant tolerate ad-breaks for one..]
So ive decided that the doors will stay shut.
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Meanwhile, I can be messaged by - e.g. 'friend request' - with the 'boilerplate' text replaced by what the sender *actually* wants to tell me -
that way in the 'explanation for declining' I can one-click-reply to the message.
Other people in the same predicament have doubtless found ways like this..
Or may find this helpful in maintaining their blood pressure while logged in at chess.com :)
okay, speaking out one's annoyance often halves it, as in this case! :) no prob. - c'est la vie [or, c'est les hommes? :)] I dont mean erik, of course :)
Most privacy setting here are all-or-none ['only my freinds' or 'all']. Not really satisfactory.
I'll speak for myself:
This one-click 'friend' is something i do not believe in; and the few 'official freinds' I have here are so for some specific reason in each case. Some real-life personal freinds here are not 'official freinds'!
I used to keep notes&messages open for all but I found myself deluged by a combination of:
1. vapid notes&messages
2. harrassment notes&messages
So, for some time now, Ive blocked those except from 'freinds'..
---
now i'd like to receive messages/notes from members of a certain group - but if i do that I open the doors to the hordes again, and going by past experience-
by the time i reach the messages i want, I will be too upset and annoyed and tired out by all the spam i'll have had to cross..
[digression: Thats why I DO NOT - since 2004 - as a rule watch TV - cant tolerate ad-breaks for one..]
So ive decided that the doors will stay shut.
-----------
Meanwhile, I can be messaged by - e.g. 'friend request' - with the 'boilerplate' text replaced by what the sender *actually* wants to tell me -
that way in the 'explanation for declining' I can one-click-reply to the message.
Other people in the same predicament have doubtless found ways like this..
Or may find this helpful in maintaining their blood pressure while logged in at chess.com :)