Being Rude in chat is Healthy?!

I've seen many posts where people complain about people being rude in the live chess.com chat. When I read these posts, I find myself disagreeing with what they are saying strongly. Not because I think it doesn't matter, but because I think it really does mater, and being an arss can actually be good. Before you write me off, read me out.

So I've found throughout my years, that there really isn't much to be found on the internet, as far as relationship goes. Don’t get me wrong, some people have great friends on the internet, just not me. And so, for a while, I gave up on chatting with people. I let it rest.

Until one day, when I got into a rip-roaring fight with someone in chat. I was actually doing terrible in the game, but had a great time thinking up insults. Now don’t hear what I’m not saying. I’m not saying fighting in real life should be strived for, what I am saying is that in this virtual reality, it is actually kind of fun and harmless. 

Not to mention it is the fastest way to get to know someone. You’ve seen it all, I know. The overly kind and ridiculously nice comments: “GG” “Well played” “Have a nice day” “Can I kiss your feet”. But I’ll tell you what; threw these comments no relationship is built: Now on the other hand, more realistic comments that you rarely see like “Bad Game” “Have a Terrible day” “And I wish you had no feet”, actually let you get to know the other person. These comments build relationship. Not a strong relationship, but a real one. 

I don’t Condone bullying, but how can you be bullied if you’re anonymous? If your anonymous you can only have fun.

Thank you for reading…… you flat faced numb brains 

Well...personally I wouldn't want to say anything in the chat room that I wouldnt say over the board. Just now a guy I have never played wrote to me during a 2+1 "you need to decide faster next time". What was built here? Nothing apart establishing that that guy has no manners. It's disrespectful. I have built some friendship out of good old banter but never out of insults. It's neither fun nor harmless. It's plain stupid. We need more gentlemen and less jackasses but I don't think we're heading the right way.

I think you take the internet, as a social platform, way to seruisly guys. Come on, you value a social life that is stricly based on text with people you cant even see?

If it's a case of your opponent venting instead of taking that anger and beating someone physically, I'd agree but still recommend they see a psychiatrist. Other than that, there's really no excuse for treating people badly. That's not what the Internet is for.

I feel like you're trying to justify such bad behaviour. Well, I never get instigated to respond but comments like 'watch the clock you ***' etc. happen. They are just funny. On the other hand, from my experience, there's more positive feedback, especially after a good game no matter the result so I cannot complain about the community here (maybe I've been lucky to play against nice guys so far)

P.S. You can easily determine the age of your opponent by their chat comments and the chat 'switch off' button is always  a blessing

Don't give me that, you snotty-faced heap of parrot droppings

lol

I can't imagine myself suddenly feeling more healthy from telling someone I wish they had no feet, but then maybe I am just odd.  I turn chat off in live games anyway cos I'm there to play chess.  I'd go to a forum if I wanted a chat (well, ok, I wouldn't, but theoretically I might!).

I think this is prompting to just insult people without hesitation,

btw you are idiots!

there.  but strangely I don't feel either better or like I have built much of a relationship with anyone...

[guys leaves, disgrunted, and is muttering to himself]

ah finally a remark from the great patzer I can relate to.......I feel we are bonding at last buddy

Call me on +91 5332 3232 (you may be charged $5 per min)

(dam high rip off.)

ah my 'good' friend Nikprit.  Yes! This is Surely going well, we are bonding at last!!

by the way you cheezy SOB, are you sure 5 WHOLE USD dollars are enough, though?

LOL

      I'll take that $5.00       Pizza anyone ?                                                                                                                 You can't be rude on an empty stomach.

Ron how do I report someone for abusive behaviour on here? No names mentioned but someone is bullying me on this thread. 

I am willing to buy pizza for everyone - once he phones to apologise for intimitating me. (probably be on hold for 10 mins & a 50 min grovel call).

      Is being rude healthy?   I can't speak for the site because I've never been rude in chat. But when it comes to the election, if your opponent is going to fall into a ditch           you might as well give him a shove.

     Do you have any Staff or mods in your friends?   Send them a private message.  If the're your friends, USE THEM  Suck the life out of them  Get EVERYTHING you can get out of.......Oh, I'm sorry, that's rude

it may be nice to be nice

but its not stress relief at all.  now hang on, brahs, I gotta go insult my boss...

     Jesus, we're Sooo busy these days. When will it stop?  They always said; If you SEE something, SAY something. Now, if we HEAR something we have to SAY something.  Wait!....what was that?.....gotta go.....I think I heard something.

mods or staff as friends? I am more selective than that Ron. For the most part, relationships based upon mutual disrespect seem to work quite well on this site, as you well know.