Chess negatively affects me either way

I’ve been playing chess for a while now. At first, I enjoyed playing chess even after a loss. It was extremely satisfying gaining achievements in chess that losing only made it more worthwhile. But in the later years, playing chess changed my attitude drastically. I went from being immune to negativity to becoming a magnet for negativity. I even get furious just because my opponents play terribly and get away with it just because of me getting distracted by my anger. This happens again and again like a cycle, the more I experience this, the worse it gets. I love playing chess that sometimes I cant help it and just play even if the fear of losing holds me back. But it is getting more and more damaging for me emotionally to play chess because I am happy, nervous, and a bit mad at the same time when playing. I am seeing the side effects of this already where I lose focus, become less sharp compared to before, less patient, easily annoyed, and worst of all, becoming more and more pessimistic. I really want to continue playing chess but how do I shake off all of these negativity?

The more I have played, the more all of my negative feelings just kind of die away…

You will have a lot of the negative feelings, but they will eventually go away.

Set realistic goals for each session, focusing on aspects like maintaining concentration, making good moves or learning a new opening.

I would recommend taking a break for around 2 weeks so everything feels unfamiliar and thus don't get as angry it might not work though

Understand that your opponent might not be as good of a player as you. If he makes mistakes, you shouldn't be mad at him. Focus on your own moves.

Take a break from competitive gaming if it helps. You can try out another chess website, lichess.org Play with a good friend

Even at my lower play level it subsides. Losing doesn't matter as much as it used to. I play to win, but if someone plays well and beats me I just shrug it off and study the game a bit.

Not trying to sound snarky but this seems like an addiction, you might wanna step away from the competitive side of the game for some time.

The game hasn't changed so you must have changed. Perhaps there are other factors that influence his stress resistance and chess only acts as a reinforcing factor. In my experience, people usually look in the wrong place when they have psychological or emotional problems.

You've become identified with the game. It happens to me sometimes. Even though I know about it, I can still fall into the trap. I lost 100 elo trying to get back to 1200. It can leave me feeling very tired, depleted and with low mood. I have played up to 20 rapid games in a day. There is always a payback in my experience.

I hope you're feeling better soon.

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Chess is a game, it is meant to be fun.
If you no longer have fun, then it is wise to take a break.
In any case I recommend to stop playing after you lose a game and to analyse it thoroughly.
That bends the negative emotions of the loss towards a positive goal: improving.
You should never let anxiety into your thinking. Just focus on the position.
You should be bold, but never reckless.
If after good thought you think a move is good, then play it without fear.

Hi. ciaoscemo.
I don't think I can understand all of emotions you say.
Can we try to accept it.
When it happens, angry, upset or other emotions that you don't like.
Just accept and realize about it.
Ah I am angry. Ah that's terrible, and then continue your game.
I think these emotions are just thought. When we knew them. They dissapear.
Just embrace them.
May be you can't do like this fast.
Buy please try.
You are not an angry man. It's just a feeling that comes and goes.