Chess player's attitude

Hello chess lovers,

I am a member in the site since last February and because of chess.com I put chess again into my life after a lot of years of non-playing. I have to say that I enjoy it very much and I want to thank the creators of the community, every person who works for having it always present, as well as every member that I have played with.

But this post is written here for a reason that I find of the most importance: a chess player's attitude.

Fortunately, I haven't experienced it a lot of times here -only maybe 10-15 that's a quite small amount comparing to the amount of the games that I have played until today- to receive a bad attidude from some players through the chat.

Do really exist people who, using some bad language during the game, believe that they take part in a game that represents maybe the most beautiful site of the human's creativity?

I don't consider as an obligation to congratulate the other player after any result of the game despite the fact that this is something I have learnt during my first lessons of chess 20 years ago and I do it most of the times. To me it is a behaviour of respect to the person who sits on the other site of the table or the of the computer. However, if some players do it or not is their own business.

But I don't find it at all as a behaviour which represents the beauty of the game to use bad language or curse words. I don't know how "romantic" sounds this thesis to you but it would be nice to have your opinions.

Furthermore, should we report in a way to the forum these kind of players who have this kind of behaviour?

The occasion of this post is a game that I had some minutes ago, and of course I have saved the username of the other player, as well as what he wrote. I wouldn't like to post it here but it can be in the disposal of the administrators of the site.

Best regards and wishes for nice games to everyone,

Tassos

Sadly enough, You're really asking for a lot.

Rudeness exists in every corner of the inter-webs. Chess.com is not immune.   Report them and you might help get them banned, that's really all there is to it.

With chess.com and its freemium model, there's zero skin in the game and no real incentive to be polite and courteous (they'll ban you ... but you can always come back!)

Anonymity allows people to be themselves without any consequences. Some do it because they're really good at being jerks. Some might try it for the thrill of it. 

Though even before the age of computers, did you think the some of the most "famous" players of the world didn't "think" these slurs/abuses when they lost?  They probably didn't say it out loud because there was a significant cost to "speaking your rage-induced mind".  

The romanticism and beauty of the game is best left for the historians. 

chess is mental comybat sport. you're emotionally involved in the game. that's why a loss can be quite a blow, especially because winning-loosing is often on an edge and many times you loose a won game because some stupid mistake, which can result in anger. i'm not immune, but i always try to say to myself: "either you win, or you learn something" and then there are the days we're the concentration just isn't there. on such days i rather find an other occupation, especially if losses start to bug me.

some people just tend to forget that there's another chess player on the other side - even online, they're paranoid that the game is in fact played by an engine, they just had a bad time besides chess, or they're like mentioned just being jerks.

i don't mind insults. most of the times i find them funny. the most creative ones, i used to keep on my wall.

i play go on kgs. most of the times people will greet you there and wish you a good game, and frequently you get a 'thank you' afterwards. also many people are willing to review games of weaker players. it's a different attitude of the community.