Have you ever consider quit playing chess?

Ah yes, here I'm again, thinking about quiting chess. Why does this keep happening.

Point is; I did this once and i didn't play for a very long time, but before quiting i had a period which i was thinking about quiting for a while. then i did it. Why? Because this game was making me mad.

First and foremost; there is no real way of making significant progress in your chess career. What have you in you, is that all you can have. It just takes time to uncover but that is all you can get. No need to struggle, it just gives you pain. You will just lose hair and mood.

Second.. mmmh I don't know what to say, there is no second, there are lotta thing i wanna say but who will care? someone will come and lecture me the otherwise.. no one will ever try to understand what i'm trying to tell here.. like no one ever had that idea before.

peace.

You lost a game today where you made a big misjudgment about a position. You had a slight advantage but you saw an option to win a piece.  I don't know if you saw the danger.

You spent only 30 seconds to figure out your options and when you made the wrong choice, you  got blasted.

The next time you face such a choice, you might spend more time to figure out your options. You had over 8 minutes remaining in a 10 minute game.   As you practice calculation, you might be able to see a little further and make the correct choice over whether or not to grab the material or choose the more conservative option.

I may not understand how you feel. As a chess player I have always love to increase my rating. My last year's chess resolution was to get 2000+ but when I was 1993, I dropped a lot of rating.

So I know how it feels to think you are not making progress. 

If rating loss is why you want to quit I don't think it's enough reason. Spend some time on chess resources like videos and have some knowledge of some openings and endgames. Slow and steady, you will see your rating increasing. 

thank you @justbefair for trying to help but problem is much deeper than that. it's not about winning this particular game or learning how to avoid simple blunders. i played much much better games with more success but there is always a limit i can not pass.. that i will never be able to pass..

that is the thing that makes me mad. i feel stuck, whatever i do i will always be stuck in between 1400-1600 boundaries. this is my plateau. i'm done. i'm a prisoner in a prison which i can never escape. that is the feeling that makes me mad. the truth itself.. the illusion of freedom.. which actually does not exist.

@UpcommingGM buddy, you look too young in your profile pic, you have a great progress, you have hopes.. but still you look like you are getting closer to your plateau. since you said you lost many ratigns in the last year that means you are slowing down. and you will eventually stop. that's where i'm standing in my journey now. but it will take time for you to realize it, you still have a way ahead. enjoy it while you still can.

I always used to wonder why an IM keeps staying IM for years (if not forever), it's just 200+ elo to make it a GM. But i know why now. Everyone has different potential and they all have to stop where they have to stop.

And i'm sick and tired of going up and down with the hopes getting a little bit better. What i feel is the pain of seeing the plain truth.. nothing else.

You're just being sad. The way to understand the emotional brain is this: whatever idea it feeds you, question it: is it really and unquestionably true?

You'll discover that it's not, and that it's based around a false conception of 'you' - there is a new you who can perfectly handle it all. No limits (like the 90s dance tune).

 

You got it man, freedom is an illusion. There's rules, interactions, relationships, karma, complexity, what have you. It's not simple like that, just like chess. In the understanding you grow as will your elo and other KPI metrics in your life.

Hope is ok but also an illusion. Don't hope to get better, get better. Work hard, study, do what you can. Don't think in terms of limits and setbacks but instead of opportunities. Keep it real.

I quit for years, I just got back into chess over the past year or so. I gave it up because I had no one to play with, not because of ratings or making a mistake. Chess, first and foremost is a game, get in touch with why you enjoyed it in the first place, and play for that instead of chasing arbitrary numbers. 

I have quitted chess, for almost 30 years I was out. No game, no study, just a few vids on YT.

Played OTB tourneys as a middle-school kid and never significantly won a single tournament. I had the lick to have a great chess mentor at my chess club who took time to show me valuable concepts… but for various reasons (lack of confidence, puberty, bad life at school and home, feelings of inadequacy), I never exploited that luck. Instead I became a hang-around and stopped playing at the club.

Then adult life took its toll. I was gone.

Moved away, told myself I could never improve, and the message that one could never get good unless they were a chess wiz kid who torch anyone at age 7 like Fischer or Magnus really took root on me.

So, even if the passion was still there I felt alone, so I did nothing but waste the years doing stuff other than chess.

Then, this year the itch to get serious got back. Because for the first time in my life I was somewhere I was fully content, both morally and financially secure to a point that I am ready to do whatever it takes to improve to a point I can feel I may finally solidly play chess.

I’ve played chess on and off the years but now I just play for some light entertainment and mental health benefits, I’ve no serious aims to improve or any specific chess goals. I just get in when I want, play some chess, respond to some forum posts if interested in doing so, and take it for what it is in my life- a game to enjoy and reap some mental benefits from. 

-Jordan

ive been there many times, it aint always easy but your motivation keeps you going

Wise decision man, its never too late to quit bad habits, chess is the worst possible waste of time and human brain power and also CPU time. I hope some time soon to follow your lead and give chess a kick out of my life, what ever little loser life I have, regards