Horrible displays of etiquette in live chess

So I played a game of live chess today, in this game my opponent played absolutely terribly and then knowing there was nothing he could do to win he simply stopped playing during his turn and let the time run out.

five minutes after he said he was going to the "bathroom" 15 minutes later he was not back...but guess what.... I disconnected during that time and lost the game.

Why would someone ever do that? Is an illgotten win THAT important to them?

If you say something negative, you should probably edit their name out.  He could  have had an emergency or something, you dont know.

Maybe he had a genuine reason to be out, and it's hardly his fault you disconnected. In summary, grow up.

Once again, I say it's silly to speculate about other people's reasons for doing things when you're online.  I've gotten up for what I thought would be just a second, then I get caught up talking to a family member or something else comes up.  A phone call.  Maybe he had to go to the bathroom, and things didn't go so well lol.  Maybe his mouse quit working, or his computer froze and for whatever reason it didn't disconnect him.  Or, maybe you're right he's a dick.  But even if you are right, the fact that there's a dick out there is no surprise.  Just carry on.  Not a big deal in the end.

I agree with you kupov, I find it highly unlikely he had a legitimate reason to let the time run out.  Any sportive player would have resigned in such a position instead of taking a time out to go to the bathroom.  And getting disconnected while waiting would have really ticked me off too.

 Highly unlikely?! How on earth can you find that. As the previous poster said, a telephone call, surprise visitor, toilet trouble (good suggestion that!), computer problems, attending to a crying baby, a family emergency.

Frankly, any of the above are going to take priority over a chess game, and bleating is pure conjecture and some would say slander, making assumptions about the activities of others and coming to the ridiculous conclusion that they must be a cheat. 

Some of you need to lighten up a bit and get a life.

I expect people online to hold to certain interpersonal standards... the standards of -- choose any two: 

• a prison riot on death row
• a late in the term Florida State frat party with lots of coke and strippers
• a three year-old's birthday party at Chucky Cheese where all the kids have ADHD
  

Even if you are right with your assumptions about the other person, where do you get off behaving in an even worse manner?

You can only be accountable for your own actions. Better to think they had some problem and move on, if you feel that strongly that it was a deliberate action, put them on a no-play list, problem permanently solved.

For future reference, here's a suggestion, let the clock run out, use the report abuse button, put them on your no-play list, and never resort to this sort of childish behaviour again. You have shamed yourself worse than you ever thought you would shame the other party.

I once had an opponent that kept their elbows on the table while playing me.

Moral of the story, don't play long games.

WOOT for Daemon tools!

were  his elbows ashy?

I would have given him lotion

Today at "Live Chess" one person threatened to kill me if I did not resign a winning position. Then he told me if I didn't give him another win, she would hunt down my family and friends and make me pay. Moreover, she started to call me names and said I was a junk chess player :.(

Haha Cloy, that's awesome. Watch out though, one day you'll get a reputation.

- "Hey, see that girl?"
- "Yeah?"
- "Yeah, that's the one who always brings lotion to the tournaments and offers it to her opponents."
- "What? Really?"
- "Uh huh. I know. Suuuper weird, eh? She creeps me out."
- "Actually... uhhh... my skin is feeling pretty parched, man."
- "What?"
- "Yeah... I'm going to go talk to her, dude. Later."
- "Oh I hate you man."
- "Don't hate me because I'm moisturized."

/and so forth...

If you were playing a game that you were completely losing and then decided to go to the bathroom why wouldn't you just resign.  It seems to me that is the proper etiquette.  And etiquette is the topic of this post.  I never said the person in question was a cheat.  Having poor etiquette is not cheating.  

By the way, I am an actuary so speculating on the likelihood of events is my job.  In my opinion he went to the bathroom and did not care to finish because he was losing.  Maybe he had something else to do, that's possible and perhaps "highly unlikely" was a stretch but the point is the player's etiquette was definitely lacking.

it's the internet.

anonymity + interaction = bad behavior

we'll soon solve this problem for premium members.

I keep my elbows on the table... I never realized how rude it was. Then I realized how long I had been doing it and said to myself if I change now than I would have no self respect and that would just be a darn shame. Sorry in advance, but I just have to be me.

Edit: wait! did I just apologize for being myself? NO way, who cares what you all think. You didnt even know I had my elbows up during our live chess games. Maybe I'll turn on my web cam next time.

Well, okay, just so long as you don't check with your mouth open.

Thanks for proving erik's point with your jerky comment, samrhine. You'd never talk to someone like that to their face.

/In samrhine's mind: "Gee, this guy is saying he's already taking care of it... hmmm, I know, I'll tell him that he should do what he's already doing and try to come off haughty about it. Yeeeeeah, THAT's the ticket."

This is why I stop playing at Live Chess after a few first  plays!

Bad language, spam, slow server and disconnections...

But I wish you be more lucky here!