How do you react when your opponent insult you ?

“mommy ... mommy - he made me do it as he did it first”

Bruh how is your last online showing April 2009 ?

Oh sorry....that was @mommy

I think a very powerful response is to genuinely ask , "Why are you rude to me?" This challenges the emotionally immature person to introspect.

I think it is helpful to maintain awareness that actually nobody has the power to offend you, contrary to common belief. Adults are responsible for their emotions.

Not saying the following applies to you; but when someone is rude, and you feel hurt or anger, is the disrespectful person the cause, or are do you lack understanding, lack mature coping skills? The answer, of course, is the latter; otherwise the rude person could "make" everybody "mad"; and a (sadly small) number of people exist, who always rise above reacting.

Playing with an intellectually mature but emotionally immature opponent might be good exercise to psychologically develop adult coping skills, certainly spiritual strength.

That is very wise. We can choose to be angry. We can choose to be grumpy. We can also, conversely, choose to be happy or cheerful

Sadly if someone say: Why are you rude to me?

The answer comes back: Because it is fun! :-)

This is so deplorable. I am appalled

Unfortunately, there will always be insults. The world is not perfect; Until it is, there will be deplorable people. There will be mean things. I think the best reaction is just to not participate in it. The world is bad enough already; We don't need to make it worse.

this forum just got hijacked

quiet all of you 

If someone tries lame, tired insults, I insult them back, better, to get them to try harder. People rely on sex stuff too much, that is played. Come up with something original.

if some 1 insult's me i just ignore them because they are trolls and don't deserve my time

There's a button to disable chat if it becomes a problem. Other than that, the last time it was an issue for me, the player in question was good enough to win the game he was in after I blundered a knight. I asked for a rematch and I didn't blunder a piece in the second game. He was less talkative while losing.

Here is a transcript of a PM exchange between myself and an opponent I beat a couple of days ago. He requested that I go forth and multiply in Polish in the game chat after resigning and then later left me a message. 

Conversation with Radek42

Radek42

I had a win, because the northern gambit for white is lost, so I'm winning with you with a high ranking, But I did not want to play this terrible opening on your part

Strangemover

2 days ago

So you curse me in the game chat then follow with a message...because you are so annoyed that you messed it up lol 😂 this is chess my friend, only you are responsible for the moves you play. Do it better next time and get the win. 

Radek42

2 days ago

Pawn forward and the game continues with my advantage, there were other moves at stake, but I did not want to tire of such a poor opening

Strangemover

2 days ago

Yes, but I can play the moves I want and you can do the same. Should have continued with the moves which gave you an advantage then you big baby. Unfortunately you don't get to choose which openings and moves your opponents play against you. 

Radek42

2 days ago

You're right, I don't have a day to play today. I shouldn't have started playing today, especially since I was in no mood to concentrate and focus. I haven't played any games properly today.

Radek42

2 days ago

Sorry, my poor game made me act rude.

Strangemover

2 days ago

OK then I accept your apology and good luck for the future 👍

If my opponent insults me ? well, it never happened to me but I guess I would proceed by kissing him in the lips, il bacio de la morte ... from Sicilia, no problem.

So who are the admins here? How can we get stuff removed from forum postings?

What do you mean ?

Some people on here were posting inappropriate things on another discussion board that I think should be removed. Who do we tell about it?

I generally just ignore, because most people trash talk in tournaments after losing an important game, if i lose a stream of 10 in a tourney where I was winning it would be normal to expect me to say "grrr" or "fk" or a "gg I'm mad bye" 

But all that generally happens when I'm winning and miuseslip/blunder, but I usually just ignore it or say "gg, srry" 

I was insulted once and the shock nearly brought me alive.

Like a defibrillator? So I need to play chess when I want to revive someone... Interesting...