How to be angry yet talk to that person

Chess.com doesn't allow to pent your frustration at him/her. So, do we should move forward. That person is ignorant that I am annoyed. So, how to pent our frustration yet follow chess.com community guidelines.   

Simple answer. You do not have a right to vent your frustrations just to anyone you want and in any circumstance. The other players do have a right not to see your frustrations also. When people vent their frustrations by directing it at their opponent it is very unsportsmanlike in Chess. That is why many people dislike playing chess in real life if their opponent always expresses their frustration vocally, and ESPECIALLY if they direct it at the opponent. Just vent it to yourself or someone else after the game.

One way you can "be angry" and talk to that person IS if you do not raise your voice, do not insult or accuse them of anything, and not use profanities. Basically contain your anger. 

To the chess.com community.What are your potential when you have anger? My potential is that I don't want to think during rapid game.  Any way to change that . Have you meet any people who is never affected by anger. Can you say me what their secrets are. Because I want to play at full potential even when I am angry.

It's simple. When you hate your position you resign?

Screaming dirty words at your computer screen helps, and is in line with the chess.com guidelines.

Throwing books at the wall will do too. Good books though: Tolstoi, Tal, Kafka ... you name it.

Language helps. Knowing whether you are frustrated, disapointed, treated without dignity, etc. Anger often comes from being unable to express how you feel to yourself, not the other person (who may not care). If you feel angry, being able to explain to yourself why you are angry with accurate, calibrated words may help provide some resolution.

Alain De Botton describes anger as being "gripped by hope" which I love. You had hoped for a different and better outcome which you believed was realistically achievable. Frustration of intent can be a useful way to frame many negative emotions. I say all this as, for me, understanding the cause or source provides comfort and resolution. If an opponent is having a great game and I've got a miserable position or I'm making bad decisions I will tell them. The chess board is an open book, there is nothing to hide. If you can be honest with your opponent about what a terrible game you are having then you will have no problem being honest with yourself and you are more likely to try and fix those aspects of your game.

@ABC_of_EVERYTHING there is one simple method you can use to express your frustration during a game. I don't know if you access the website by computer, but I have the app on my phone. During game play, simply click under your own profile picture. There are several emoji options such as :[], which may elicit a response from your opponent. The anger you feel is natural, especially when you have a mental lapse during a game. It can even be useful, if you use it to channel a drive to become a better player. Become so angry that you resolve to study immediately! That will help, but attempt to remain level while playing.

Another way to  do it is by breaking your PC or punching in the wall as hard as you can. These are allowed   and in line with chess.com guidelines.  

I am not Lawrence Trent that self destruct myself

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Well, my question was why people in chess don't resign in a lost position. Well outside of chess we are taught or our instinct says to resign and so makes us available to pursue others. They of course can play another game but not with lost rating points and making sure the winner lost all his mental energy. This makes me really pissed off. So piss off that I began to make blunder by hanging pieces. This also shows why my board memory is weak. Instead of memorizing moves in the opening, I should improve my current board position to memory. It changes every single move but I must try to keep it up like every year different standard. 

Good idea. I always wanted to look inside of this type of person. Thank you for showing me the gate. What will be the best way than becoming one. YoYo

My mentioned game was rapid when they have additional 15 extra minutes to harass me

I was thinking maybe it is kind of fool because fools don't resign. At least I found one benefit of fool. Now I can rest in peace

If you cant handle it ...... Just switch off the comments
Usually I let my frustration out

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