I had this experience with two games other than chess. As a kid, my family had both a pool and a ping-pong table. I grew up with these and I thought I was pretty good. I could beat all of my friends. I closed many bars in college holding the bar table undefeated. And I won a high school table tennis tournament.
well, when I got to graduate school, I met a guy who played on the Taiwan table tennis team. I couldn’t score a point against him. And I met a professor who lived in the pool halls after class (he gave grad students the number of the pool hall if he wasn’t in his faculty office). He could blitz me in any form of pool. What I thought was pretty good was basically at the novice level for serious competitors. In my chess career, I have seen the same thing many times.
To be fair, if he is in that national team, you not scoring a point doesn't say much about your skill. You might still be an excellent amateur player, as that wasn't really a fair competition. He is a very good pro.
That guy is probably in top 100 in the world, as they always have a couple of people like that, sometimes they have people in top 10 as well.
One have around the same chance of beating an above average NBA player in 1 on 1 basketball. This is how difficult that would be.
And the point is clear, there are so many levels to chess, and expecting too much from yourself if you haven't dedicated a lot of time to it is unrealistic.
I had this experience with two games other than chess. As a kid, my family had both a pool and a ping-pong table. I grew up with these and I thought I was pretty good. I could beat all of my friends. I closed many bars in college holding the bar table undefeated. And I won a high school table tennis tournament.
well, when I got to graduate school, I met a guy who played on the Taiwan table tennis team. I couldn’t score a point against him. And I met a professor who lived in the pool halls after class (he gave grad students the number of the pool hall if he wasn’t in his faculty office). He could blitz me in any form of pool. What I thought was pretty good was basically at the novice level for serious competitors. In my chess career, I have seen the same thing many times.