Is it bad sportsmanship to decline rematch?
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TheOldBlunderer wrote:
Everyone should be free to accept a rematch. However, there is another point that annoys me about rematch requests: i usually receive requests from people who *beat* me, and find that quite offending. I would recommend that chess.com enable the rematch request only for the player who lost and, of course, for both players if it was a draw. Some winners who requested remtches from me claimed they were 'offering' or 'granting' a rematch, but I suppose anyone who longs to re-play against the one they just beat is simply looking for easy points to gain.
Again: Rematch requests should be the exclusive right of losers (or, of course, after a draw).
yeah and supposedly there's a way to turn off rematch requests altogether but I couldn't get it to work
Feb 6, 2022
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#25
It's a waste of time to be nice, sometimes. Disregarding that: no, it's not bad sportsmanship at all.
People suggest rematches from reasons ranging from mis-clicks or random trolling to admiration or self loathing. Don't bother making sense of others and make your life easier. Although, psychological aspects of chess can be quite interesting to explore:
( Forgive if this is slightly off topic ) I used to resign prematurely. Recently though I learned that thinking you have won just because you have the "upper hand" ( pun intended ) is a weakness to exploit.
Not at all, they just don't want to play against you
Well than why is there the decline button in the first place?
Mar 23, 2022
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#28
This is exactly why I don't accept rematches. As I get older I need a 3 or 4 hour break after a hard fought game.
Mar 24, 2022
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TheOldBlunderer kirjoitti:
Everyone should be free to accept a rematch. However, there is another point that annoys me about rematch requests: i usually receive requests from people who *beat* me, and find that quite offending. I would recommend that chess.com enable the rematch request only for the player who lost and, of course, for both players if it was a draw. Some winners who requested remtches from me claimed they were 'offering' or 'granting' a rematch, but I suppose anyone who longs to re-play against the one they just beat is simply looking for easy points to gain.
Again: Rematch requests should be the exclusive right of losers (or, of course, after a draw).
I think quite opposite. I think it should be everyone's right to offer a rematch, I understand your poin of view. I manytimes offer a rematch even after win, at least if I played white, for an opposent to get theyr change to play white.
I's funny, that this is almoust the same thing what came to my mind, but I got different solution.. check link below.. =>
https://www.chess.com/forum/view/community/a-match-feature-between-players
Mar 24, 2022
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#30
YouEvenLiftBro kirjoitti:
If I haven't had a conversation in chat with the player during the game then I never accept a rematch. Why would anyone? They are just a player to me and I'll learn more from different players then from playing the same player again. If we have bothered to chat, then often I will, because they are a person to me at that point. But, no, there are no ethics involved. Rematch if you want to rematch, decline rematch if you want to decline. It's not an ethical issue.
So you mean both of you will play same, even that pieces has changed for the second game, I doupt that..
Only the ill-bred fail to understand that when asked for a rematch granting at least one is good sportsmanship and good manners. Of course if circumstances obviate engaging in a rematch, then it is not expected. In over-the-board casual chess around the world, granting a rematch is a social norm. Try hanging out at a chess-playing venue and refusing rematch requests. You will soon be known as a jerk and find it hard to get anyone to play with you. I do not think that the anonymity of online chess changes matters.
No one is entitled to a rematch. Declining it is perfectly fine.
Chess.com support page says it's fine to accept or decline, and shouldn't be seen as rude at all either way.
https://support.chess.com/article/1342-is-it-rude-to-refuse-a-rematch-request
Oceanoptic wrote:
Only the ill-bred fail to understand that when asked for a rematch granting at least one is good sportsmanship and good manners. Of course if circumstances obviate engaging in a rematch, then it is not expected. In over-the-board casual chess around the world, granting a rematch is a social norm. Try hanging out at a chess-playing venue and refusing rematch requests. You will soon be known as a jerk and find it hard to get anyone to play with you. I do not think that the anonymity of online chess changes matters.
A jerk is an annoyingly stupid or foolish person. How then does declining a rematch make someone a jerk? If one is to be annoyed when their opponent simply declines a rematch "request" then clearly that one needs to reconsider their way of thinking.
Of course not - you don't have to do anything.
Learn to say no 
Either way, I often just play a few games because I have other things to do - there's no time for rematches so I condense as much chess power as I can into a single battle.
So indeed, it's never something personal. And the ones that interpret it that way - it's their problem. They have to figure out to start using their PFC to override amygdalic impulses - which is what chess is about.
In all of the forums devoted to the subject of rematches, much attention has been given to the surface of the matter (the question of whether it's sportsmanlike/unsportsmanlike to accept/reject any rematch requests), then everyone gets caught up in the drama that unfolds from all the various replies...SCANT attention is paid to the *circumstances* of the game which has just been played prior to the rematch request------so before jumping to conclusions, one should take a moment and consider the game just played. Was it well-played? Was there a blunder in the game? Was it decided by timeout? Was it a grinding game? Was it a boring game of exchanges? Was the opponent crushed? These are all viable factors which must be considered. Sometimes people offer rematches because they enjoyed a well-played game and want another. Other times a game may be completely one-sided and the winner may indeed have ill-motives in offering a rematch. Motives abound in rematch requests by those who lose a game; some innocuous and some malodorous. But as stated earlier, take into consideration whatever game has just been played before passing judgement on those who either accept or reject rematch requests in a given instance. J'AI DIT...
you accept or you move on like nothing happens, we live and one day we die
Declining a rematch is your choise, I often was insulted by some guys bc i declined, but yeah you can decline it's fine
Oceanoptic wrote:
Only the ill-bred fail to understand that when asked for a rematch granting at least one is good sportsmanship and good manners. Of course if circumstances obviate engaging in a rematch, then it is not expected. In over-the-board casual chess around the world, granting a rematch is a social norm. Try hanging out at a chess-playing venue and refusing rematch requests. You will soon be known as a jerk and find it hard to get anyone to play with you. I do not think that the anonymity of online chess changes matters.
You are comparing oranges to apples. Casual chess is unrated. Most of games here are rated and should be compared to competitive chess. Have you ever played in an official chess competition? Then you should understand how stupid a rematch request would be. Imagine Naka asking Magnus after a loss: "Hey, let's play another one. We still have enough time before the next round".
Rematch option in online chess is just a convenient way to keep playing against the same opponent when both want it.