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Hi Amy, as a matter of fact yes. I meet fiddler, ( Russ Hedrick ), on line and went to his home many times in Wikiup AZ. Thats south of Phoenix. We were friends for over 2 year before his death from a cancer. I miss him a lot. He was an entertainer and played, wait for itttt....the fiddle. hence the name. I went to his show and saw what he did firsthand. He looked like and did a show based on Charlie Daniels, he did Devil went down to Georgia very well. Take a look:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_9g9l2F4fuw
I was introduced to the site via long-time, real life friends, but have not met anyone here. It seems kind of backwards, doesn't it?
I agree that people on here are not what they seem. I actually had to close my previous account because of harrassment by someone I chatted with via AIM, YAhoo, etc, who turned out to be completely different than first appearing. Now I'm weary of who I interact with, and keep myself at a distance from anyone I don't actually know. I'll still talk in groups, post jokes, etc, but will not sign onto chat, or give out my chat or email info. People here just aren't that trustworthy, I'm finding. Is that too cynical??
@Enchanted. Yeah, that's a little cynical. I can appreciate how annoying it could be for a female to continue to get harassed by guys trying to get a date (sex, whatever, etc.). You gotta hand it to them for not hanging out in the bars and spending tons of money and drinking and driving though.
You've provided a distraction for them and have made the world a safer place because they're off the street now. Thank you so much.
Just keep doing what you're doing and eventually you'll meet some more nice people on here (I'm kind of nice, but have some character defects that I still have to work out. Besides, I really don't give a **** about ever meeting you in real life. S4H is the only one for me, I swear it).
God bless.
Feb 12, 2011
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serchin4BobF wrote:
@Enchanted. Yeah, that's a little cynical. I can appreciate how annoying it could be for a female to continue to get harassed by guys trying to get a date (sex, whatever, etc.). You gotta hand it to them for not hanging out in the bars and spending tons of money and drinking and driving though.
You've provided a distraction for them and have made the world a safer place because they're off the street now. Thank you so much.
Just keep doing what you're doing and eventually you'll meet some more nice people on here (I'm kind of nice, but have some character defects that I still have to work out. Besides, I really don't give a **** about ever meeting you in real life. S4H is the only one for me, I swear it).
God bless.
I also hope you get to know some people here that are nice. I would like to meet you in person, as I would many here, but only to get to know each person better. And then, there are others that I do not feel I would be comfortable being near.
At least it should not be a problem getting a conversation started - just mention chess.
serchin4BobF wrote:
S4H is the only one for me, I swear it).
Aren't you the funny one, Bob-O. 
Enchanted wrote:
WI was introduced to the site via long-time, real life friends, but have not met anyone here. It seems kind of backwards, doesn't it?
I agree that people on here are not what they seem. I actually had to close my previous account because of harrassment by someone I chatted with via AIM, YAhoo, etc, who turned out to be completely different than first appearing. Now I'm weary of who I interact with, and keep myself at a distance from anyone I don't actually know. I'll still talk in groups, post jokes, etc, but will not sign onto chat, or give out my chat or email info. People here just aren't that trustworthy, I'm finding. Is that too cynical??
It's a little cynical, but everyone has their own comfort level. I keep my distance from most people and any email address I give out is one that I created specifically to communicate with chess folks so there's no personal information exchanged.
When I first came to this site, I met a man that I thought was very interesting and being a little naive about it, I let him get too close. Nothing too frightening with that experience, but it taught me to be on guard. I had another bad experience last year about this time with a man that started off very nice and then became rather abusive and even used part of his profile as a childish personal attack on me when he spotted something he didn't particularly like. I've since learned that I was not his only victim. I still see both of these men on this site using the same dried up lines they used on me and I always hope the other unsuspecting women fair better than I did with them.
On the other side of that coin, I've met some truly incredible people here, one friend even spent a small fortune on me to send me oodles of chess books, but that kind of comfort level comes few and far between for me. I know in talking with other people, that they have had some incredible and wonderful experiences with folks here. Even with the good I've seen here, it's still better to always err on the side of caution.
serchin4BobF wrote:
@Enchanted. Yeah, that's a little cynical. I can appreciate how annoying it could be for a female to continue to get harassed by guys trying to get a date (sex, whatever, etc.). You gotta hand it to them for not hanging out in the bars and spending tons of money and drinking and driving though.
You've provided a distraction for them and have made the world a safer place because they're off the street now. Thank you so much.
Just keep doing what you're doing and eventually you'll meet some more nice people on here (I'm kind of nice, but have some character defects that I still have to work out. Besides, I really don't give a **** about ever meeting you in real life. S4H is the only one for me, I swear it).
God bless.
It's better than being out and getting into trouble, you've got a point there.
I'm wondering though if the "you" is in general or directed at me since the prior paragraph was. I don't actually provide anything, so I'm unsure of your meaning.
I'm pretty much set with meeting people. If I do that's cool, it's just not my intent, not why I'm here. I'm not overly serious about chess, I'm not very good at it, but it's fun and I'm amused, so I keep my distance, and don't become harrassed.
And I know that was a wicked long run on sentence. :)
SoulForHire wrote:
Enchanted wrote:
WI was introduced to the site via long-time, real life friends, but have not met anyone here. It seems kind of backwards, doesn't it?
I agree that people on here are not what they seem. I actually had to close my previous account because of harrassment by someone I chatted with via AIM, YAhoo, etc, who turned out to be completely different than first appearing. Now I'm weary of who I interact with, and keep myself at a distance from anyone I don't actually know. I'll still talk in groups, post jokes, etc, but will not sign onto chat, or give out my chat or email info. People here just aren't that trustworthy, I'm finding. Is that too cynical??
It's a little cynical, but everyone has their own comfort level. I keep my distance from most people and any email address I give out is one that I created specifically to communicate with chess folks so there's no personal information exchanged.
When I first came to this site, I met a man that I thought was very interesting and being a little naive about it, I let him get too close. Nothing too frightening with that experience, but it taught me to be on guard. I had another bad experience last year about this time with a man that started off very nice and then became rather abusive and even used part of his profile as a childish personal attack on me when he spotted something he didn't particularly like. I've since learned that I was not his only victim. I still see both of these men on this site using the same dried up lines they used on me and I always hope the other unsuspecting women fair better than I did with them.
On the other side of that coin, I've met some truly incredible people here, one friend even spent a small fortune on me to send me oodles of chess books, but that kind of comfort level comes few and far between for me. I know in talking with other people, that they have had some incredible and wonderful experiences with folks here. Even with the good I've seen here, it's still better to always err on the side of caution.
I agree. There are probably some wicked cool people, and honestly, the people in the groups we're both in seem great, but I'm not about to get super close to them. I definitely wouldn't meet them based on just how cool they seem so far. I don't really know how to explain myself any better and I'm not entirely sure I'm getting my point across clearly. I guess, basically, I'd rather have acquaintances. It sounds worse than I meant it...
My husband and I just met someone that I play here, for dinner on our trip...had a great time!
Crosspinner wrote:
serchin4BobF wrote:
@Enchanted. Yeah, that's a little cynical. I can appreciate how annoying it could be for a female to continue to get harassed by guys trying to get a date (sex, whatever, etc.). You gotta hand it to them for not hanging out in the bars and spending tons of money and drinking and driving though.
You've provided a distraction for them and have made the world a safer place because they're off the street now. Thank you so much.
Just keep doing what you're doing and eventually you'll meet some more nice people on here (I'm kind of nice, but have some character defects that I still have to work out. Besides, I really don't give a **** about ever meeting you in real life. S4H is the only one for me, I swear it).
God bless.
I also hope you get to know some people here that are nice. I would like to meet you in person, as I would many here, but only to get to know each person better. And then, there are others that I do not feel I would be comfortable being near.
At least it should not be a problem getting a conversation started - just mention chess.
LOL thanks :)
Enchanted wrote:
SoulForHire wrote:
Enchanted wrote:
WI was introduced to the site via long-time, real life friends, but have not met anyone here. It seems kind of backwards, doesn't it?
I agree that people on here are not what they seem. I actually had to close my previous account because of harrassment by someone I chatted with via AIM, YAhoo, etc, who turned out to be completely different than first appearing. Now I'm weary of who I interact with, and keep myself at a distance from anyone I don't actually know. I'll still talk in groups, post jokes, etc, but will not sign onto chat, or give out my chat or email info. People here just aren't that trustworthy, I'm finding. Is that too cynical??
It's a little cynical, but everyone has their own comfort level. I keep my distance from most people and any email address I give out is one that I created specifically to communicate with chess folks so there's no personal information exchanged.
When I first came to this site, I met a man that I thought was very interesting and being a little naive about it, I let him get too close. Nothing too frightening with that experience, but it taught me to be on guard. I had another bad experience last year about this time with a man that started off very nice and then became rather abusive and even used part of his profile as a childish personal attack on me when he spotted something he didn't particularly like. I've since learned that I was not his only victim. I still see both of these men on this site using the same dried up lines they used on me and I always hope the other unsuspecting women fair better than I did with them.
On the other side of that coin, I've met some truly incredible people here, one friend even spent a small fortune on me to send me oodles of chess books, but that kind of comfort level comes few and far between for me. I know in talking with other people, that they have had some incredible and wonderful experiences with folks here. Even with the good I've seen here, it's still better to always err on the side of caution.
I agree. There are probably some wicked cool people, and honestly, the people in the groups we're both in seem great, but I'm not about to get super close to them. I definitely wouldn't meet them based on just how cool they seem so far. I don't really know how to explain myself any better and I'm not entirely sure I'm getting my point across clearly. I guess, basically, I'd rather have acquaintances. It sounds worse than I meant it...
No, didn't sound bad at all. I often think this place should be renamed Pervs.com and just be done with it. There are definitely some nutters here and I don't even like keeping very many acquaintances these days.
Feb 12, 2011
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I met a person on here that I believe is really a great person to know. We have some common interests and philosophies. However, I am careful about revealing much information about myself early in any relationship, online or off. I also know a married couple that met through a mating site and they are truly happy.
I often wonder how a blind person chooses friends and a marriage partner. Just think, for the most part it is just by listening. Even trusting friends' advice is listening. Meeting on the Web is similar. Sure, photos are often exchanged, but who can be certain those photos are the person one is communicating with?
Crosspinner wrote:
I met a person on here that I believe is really a great person to know. We have some common interests and philosophies. However, I am careful about revealing much information about myself early in any relationship, online or off. I also know a married couple that met through a mating site and they are truly happy.
I often wonder how a blind person chooses friends and a marriage partner. Just think, for the most part it is just by listening. Even trusting friends' advice is listening. Meeting on the Web is similar. Sure, photos are often exchanged, but who can be certain those photos are the person one is communicating with?
I agree that you never really know who you are communicating with. My recent meeting with a fellow member was purely a leap of faith on both our parts. All we knew about one another was what we knew through emails, chats, Skype sessions, and phone calls that went on for almost a year. It could have gone badly, but lucky for the both of us, it went very well and we both left the situation a little richer having met in person.
I've written many posts on the internet and I only have one word of advice: SPACING!
p.s. 
The only thing I know about the secondary characters in my life, is the story I create about them. The truth is that I don't know anyone, and nobody knows me either.
serchin4BobF wrote:
The only thing I know about the secondary characters in my life, is the story I create about them. The truth is that I don't know anyone, and nobody knows me either.
And now I'm curious about the story you have created about me.
SoulForHire wrote:
serchin4BobF wrote:
The only thing I know about the secondary characters in my life, is the story I create about them. The truth is that I don't know anyone, and nobody knows me either.
And now I'm curious about the story you have created about me.
OOh baby, I gotta keep that to myself S4H 
@Writch. Pshh! Shows what you know, I don't even like chickens.