Same with me - ten in a row I've had enough
There should be a rating penalty for aborting games

I don't even go to live chess anymore , everytime after 4 to 6 moves the game is aborted , it's not the oponent , must be the server or who knows what it is .

there is no courtesy here, i have a bad experience with the tournament because many people abandon the games and i am in a astruggle and many playesrs have even two winned games and is because their opponents abandon the game , and suddenly they are the leaders without play!!!!

so when somebody joins my seek and doesn't make a move, I should lose points for aborting that game after a reasonable amount of time?

so when somebody joins my seek and doesn't make a move, I should lose points for aborting that game after a reasonable amount of time?
What I do in that case is just create another seek and let the idle person time out.
Totally stupid "solution", I agree and I am not really a point whore (check my rating ;-) but I think there should be some rating mechanism to encourage a bit more civil behavior.

How does one abandon a game?
afaik - closing the window without resigning constitutes an "abandoned" game - though there may be some server timeout issues involved at times too.

so when somebody joins my seek and doesn't make a move, I should lose points for aborting that game after a reasonable amount of time?
What I do in that case is just create another seek and let the idle person time out.
Totally stupid "solution", I agree and I am not really a point whore (check my rating ;-) but I think there should be some rating mechanism to encourage a bit more civil behavior.
Time doesn't start until both players have made the first move. Your "solution" doesn't really solve anything.
Point is, if you think people are aborting due to a rating difference, just set a rating range.

My current defense against this annoying behavior is to be preemptive: if someone with a rating of 300+ more than me accepts my seek, I will abort the game simply because in my experience, if I don't, they usually do. This sucks and I don't like doing it but so it goes
Suggestion: use advanced option to limit the rating of players who can see your seek. You might want to limit your seeks to 100 points higher than your own.

My basic point though is that it is rude to accept a seek and then abort the game. I don't know why people do it - I was only guessing about ratings etc. The main point is that there should be EITHER - a penalty - OR a user interface element that asks you to confirm: "Do you really want to accept this seek?" ZZZThe latter would be more polite but I really think something needs to be done about this in live chess.
Also - while I am here... there is no current way in the Live Chess GUI to block someone who repeatedly aborts games. That would also be a good addition.
Live chess: so many aborted games. Why? Someone with a higher rating clicks on my seek, and then aborts. Or someone with whatever rating decides that they don't like my opening move. Or? No idea.
It's very annoying. I think there should be a penalty of x points for aborting a game, just like there is for abandoning a game. True, an aborted game has not started yet but there is a courtesy factor here.
Also, most times it does not seem to be a disconnect because I get a message that so and so has closed the game window - so clearly the server connection was still live.
My current defense against this annoying behavior is to be preemptive: if someone with a rating of 300+ more than me accepts my seek, I will abort the game simply because in my experience, if I don't, they usually do. This sucks and I don't like doing it but so it goes.
Ok - that's my little rant after having 4 games aborted on me in a row.