Chatting after a game

Hi,

I have played many games, mostly without success, but I nearly always thank the other player for the game etc. I would say over 90% of the time I get no reply, nothing at all. Is this common ? I would like to chat about the game, seeing where I went wrong and how I (or they) might improve.

Does no one like to chat ?

Thanks

I’ve seen more conversation on loading screens than on here LOL

Unfortunately 'in game' interactions on here are mostly negative, thus a lot of people (including myself) have chat muted and move on immediately after the game is concluded. I suspect a certain demographic, used to hiding behind a keyboard is responsible for the negativity, but I can't be sure. That said, there's also a great number of really nice people playing on chess.com, however it's a case of the minority spoiling the experience of the majority.

I’ve worn out the mute button myself, best defense against those post game philosophers with no manners

I mostly just say good game after each match, trying to be friendly and not too pushy... My personal favorite way to converse on this cite!

Saying good game after a game isnt really chatting anyway.

I’ve noticed the same thing but I find it hard to notice when someone or myself haven sent message, like a notification sometimes and somes does not come up. I know this fact because my sister and I play a lot and we have many comments go unnoticed. (Unless of course she just doesn’t likeI me I’ve also noticed that within the chat a bunch of gibberish is included especially where a comma or something like that was meant to be. I wonder if there is glitch of some kind. I think it would also be nice to have an icon to offer a handshake at the end as is common in a real game. The chat feature could be a lot better if you ask me. Even things like if you hold down the whole board for a couple seconds it could have a quick drop down menu with predetermined phrases like”oh nice” “didn’t see that coming or “bahhhhhhhhhhhh” etc etc

I think they say after the game for example: Na3 was bad you should have played Nc3, Nd2, or Qh5+ (im just giving examples)

It goes with online chess. Being able to remain anonymous allows some to act in ways they wouldn't in person. Some think that chatting makes them look "weak" Some think it gives them a "psychological" edge or they somehow think they have gotten in your head.

In 50 years of OTB tournament play only one time did someone not shake hands, or chat: "good game" or "good luck". Online its the exact opposite, so take it for what it is.

Most players are not in “learning mode”. Many are just grinding games, chasing rating, or using the game as a dopamine hit. Others are too upset (even after a win) to engage in a thoughtful conversation.

Most of players might not pay attention to what happens in chats when the game is over

Sometimes "good game" etc in a game chat may be considered as trolling

As for "seeing where I went wrong and how I might improve":
You can analyse your game and find it out yourself. If you still need a live human then look for friends who have similar interest

I click "so-and-so was a good sport" and move on.

I have had very good conversations with opponents, win or lose, after the game; many end up on my friends-list. There are many players, both at chess.com and other gaming sites, with bad attitudes. However, there are also many players with good attitudes who improve the overall gaming experience.

Yes, this is one good reason, and there are a couple of others

- Many folks here don't speak English, or not well enough to feel comfortable chatting.

- Many are kids and not up on these sorts of social graces, and who probably shouldn't be talking to strangers on the internet anyway.

- Because it's uncommon for there to be post-game chats, many immediately run off to new games.

It's a shame, but probably in most cases they're not intentionally ignoring you.

Thanks everyone

You know, you can also post any positions that are difficult to fully analyze post-game on a forum post under the category Game Analysis

Me personally whenever my game is over I either exit or go to the review for a quick analysis. Most of my chats have been during the game, not after. I’ve had some positive and negative comms, some being friendly and humble, and some just sore losers. Both have been welcome so far. About a week ago I got my first middlefinger emoji, which was funny 😆 today I hit 500 elo, after struggling on 300 elo for a very long time, so today’s a good day 🎉

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