How do you all deal with impatient players?

I started disabling chat in 30 min games after running into too many opponents telling me to "hurry up" if I take any longer than a minute to make a move. Dramatic improvement in my experience playing impatient beginners.

I played a guy yesterday though who I disabled chat on, but didn't realize he could still spam ⏱ and 😡emoji's at me.

I figured out how to disable emoji's as well and played my next move. I had him in a pretty tight spot, but he chose to let his 20 minutes run out instead of continuing or resigning.

So like, no big deal... I got a free win, I just watched a few youtube videos to pass the time.

I messaged him afterwards, suggesting he play 10 minute games if he didn't want to wait that long and thanked him for the free win. But man... I would be lying if I didn't say that after 10 minutes of stalling I wasn't a little bit pissed that he chose to let his clock run out. I thought after disabling chat my problems with impatient players would be over, but they somehow find a way.

Anyways, in the end it all worked out.

But, I'm curious. How do you all deal with impatient players? Anyone have any good stories to share?

I think essentially what you did is the best way to deal with it: do something else if they are looking to waste time.  I agree with you that it's hard not to be a little angry at the situation.  But at the end of the day, we can only control our emotions, report the player for conducting unsportsmanlike behavior, and move on with our lives.

When I first started chess two years ago on another site, I started playing a few 15|10 games.  The guy I was going against was using less then 30 seconds on every move.  We had hit the middlegame and was thinking for a few minutes when he started spamming at me.  Classic "hurry up".  I suggested mid-game that he  queue shorter time controls and said something ridiculous like "that's not how we do it on here" or something like that.  I got a knight fork on his king and queen within a few moves.  He just posted back "ahhhhhh" and left.

slow roll

I *think* I've gotten to where they don't bother me.  I choose to be amused at their impatience.

Last night an opponent was bugging me to hurry because he needed to go to bed.  After I mated him, he promptly asked for a rematch.  People are funny, huh?  (He clobbered me in the rematch...!)

Right now im playing a 3/2 game on another site.  My opponent is one move from mate and they have 3:13 on the clock.  So of course they are just sitting there letting the clock run. And they have sent a Draw offer.  So here I am :-)

Bacon, is it wrong that I found that funny?

Different people react to things differently.  When something that is done online that you rarely if ever see OTB.  That should tell you all you need to know.  And this is why it doesn't bother me.

I didn't know know how extremely common these type of players until I started playing 30|0 and 30|20 more recently. They pick these really long time controls and then decide what they really want to play is bullet,  proceeding to blitz out all their moves and get mad when you don't do the same.

I'm the time of player to spend 15-20 minutes on my first 15 moves so when I when I get those "hurry up" or "so boring" messages I just ignore them.

I don't play long time controls. I can't focus on a screen for too long.

EggsZackly!  Online chess does nothing for me.  Its something to do to kill come time.  OTB chess is where i find enjoyment in the game.

@i_type_loud ... First, great name, mate.  Love it!  Second, yeah; mute them if you can.  Or just ignore them.  You are allowed to use the time allotted on your clock.  I'm definitely not a fast player either.  I've gotten slower as I've gotten older.  I sent you a friend request; I do mostly daily chess, so feel free to send a challenge if you like.  I'm not particularly skillful, though, so be warned!  LOL

@ IMBacon ... Yeah, running down the clock is really a sore loser.  Seriously, someone like that needs professional help because they have too much of their self-esteem included in that game.  Honestly, if they do that, report them.

I have asked many why they let the clock run out instead of resigning.  And obviously i dont get an answer.  So I can only assume that its simply a way of saying:  "Ill show you for beating me.  I will make you wait for the win!"  Like you said, its an ego thing, or lack of.

I dont report people.  That's like trying to stop a damn break with your fingers.

If you want to tilt them further, just spam back "Your tears are delicious."

I'm new to this crazy game.

Last night I was getting obviously SMOKED by an opponent. In Chat I asked him if it was considered rude to resign. (I really didn't know what the etiquette was.) 

"Certainly not" was his reply.

I resigned in seconds.

It makes absolutely no sense to start a long game if you don't have the time or the patience for that time control. Your opponent knew what they were getting into when they started the game. If someone purposefully lets their clock run down to 0 in a losing position then that's obviously bad manners, but as long as someone is simply using their time to find the best moves then their opponent has no right to complain.

Earlier this week in a 3/2 game i had an opponent that would chat "hurry up" and "go" every single move.  I typed back:  "Its my time to do as i want with"  So when that didn't work, he started typing how he was Magnus Carlsen, and then he was Bobby Fischer.  So I asked him the obvious question:  "Which one are you?"  So his thinking process is now: "Crap...None of this is working."  So how does the game end?  You guessed it.  He lets the clock run out.

you don’t deal with them, you maintain inner peace.

Haha, imagine not even having the patience for a 3|2 game. What a joke. He also had a pretty weak trolling game. He should have at least come up with something somewhat believable.

One of my recent correspondence (Daily) opponents got into a lost position in both of our games and purposefully used the full 3 days per move to stall for a while (he was moving very quickly before). Eventually he gave up and finally let the games time out but it was very annoying.